“Sir, I am doing very well. My health has been stable, and my wife had a successful surgery and is out of her pain now. My daughter is engaged with a very well qualified groom of her choice and my son is performing academically well. I have risen in my career from the ranks to this level. There is one thing that bothers me. Am I a few months away from a major disaster or crisis in my life? Do I deserve all this good news or is this calm before a major storm?” “Sir, I have been on a ditch for a while and I am trying not to dig any further. My health has been on a downward spiral for a while. My wife is on medication for deep depression. My son joined Medical School but dropped off after a year and he is currently pursuing something I don’t understand. My daughter is in love with a guy that I am very nervous about. I am looking for the light at the end of the tunnel that would keep my hopes high. Will I ever see some bright spot in my life?” Why is it so hard for these two to ameliorate their mindset? What is preventing them from enjoying the euphoria of joy which is the mission of every life? Do they need to be on anxiolytic? They both seem to be in bastille territory heavily guarded and appeared to be trapped in an orange jumpsuit forever. Can they get an amulet from a psychic or a Guru who has special skills to protect them from evil? Can they practice Zen meditation? Or can they go on a spiritual path to achieve apotheosis? What is one thing that trapped them both in this quagmire? One appears to be leading a dream life yet trapped in anxiety of future forever while the other appears to be trapped into deep state conspiracy of the past thinking the life is going to be full of thorns killing any traces of hope. Our mind is a cauldron of thoughts and our inner friend is constantly claiming the importance of its analytical skill. It has stored every minuscule detail of our past experiences burned with emotions carefully and brings it into our mind’s eye within fraction of a second in order to express its dominance. It has unlimited ability to forecast the future also quickly. When one is filled with so many exciting news, it tends to neutralize our thoughts with a little bit of possible future problems while someone is constantly living in bad news, it tends to neutralize by giving rays of hopes. That process is elongated, and the agitation happens during this transition as our reactions happen on a different frequency than the ability of the mind to address the balancing act. The cauldron of thoughts that is called mind becomes independent and constantly chatter within us with the only purpose to express its dominance. The mind expects us to associate every solution to its capabilities. In fact, the mind has limited to no ability to control anything in this world except its own emotions, feeling and reactions. Our inner growth is completely dependent upon the realization that the only way to find peace and contentment is to stop thinking about ourselves. We’re ready to grow when we finally realize that the "I" who is always talking inside will never be content and on the contrary it thrives in chaos. It always has a problem with something. When a problem is disturbing us, we shouldn’t ask, "What should I do about it?" and instead ask, "What part of us is being disturbed by this?" If we ask, "What should we do about it?" we've already fallen into believing that there really is a problem outside that must be dealt with while our problem is in our inner emotions, feelings and reactions. To attain true inner freedom, we must be able to objectively watch our problems instead of being lost in them. No solution can possibly exist while you're lost in the energy of a problem. Everyone knows we can't deal well with the situation if we're getting anxious, scared, or angry about it. The first problem we must deal with is our own emotions, feelings and reactions. We will not be able to solve anything outside until we know how the situation affects us inside. Problems are generally not what they appear to be. When we get clear enough, we will realize that the real problem is that there is something inside of us that can have a problem with almost anything. The first step is to deal with that part of us. We need to be in parking gear and understand the surroundings before we decide whether to move it to “drive” or “reverse” mode. We may question that the “park” mode may not get us anywhere but most importantly, it gives us the ability to pause, observe the situations or circumstances outside of us and allow us to watch the indicators in the dash board as well without us committing to anything.