Hi all, I would appreciate your insight of my problem. I believe I am unable to analyze this objectively and it is driving me crazy. My marriage is going through tough times. It may end up in separation or divorce. The issue is my parent’s reaction to my situation. They have told me multiple times that they support any decision I take. While I am thankful to them for saying that, I think we have different ideas of what that support actually means. To me, that would mean not bringing up old issues and blaming me for not reacting correctly in that situation. For example, a week after the wedding, my parents had a dinner party at home for their friends. My parents in law were invited to that as well. I made sure to take care of them, fetch them food and drinks, talk to them, make them comfortable etc. However, later that night when we were by ourselves, my husband made a huge stink that I did not care for them to his satisfaction. He fought almost all night with me. I tried to make him understand that I did do everything but could not convince him. I told my mother about the fight the next day because I was upset and I wanted to know if I really did something wrong. My parents assured me that I took care of my in laws just fine and that my husband was unreasonable. Now, this happened 7 years ago and my mother brought up this issue yesterday and tells me “well, I discussed your issue with my friends and they said you made lots of mistakes too such as not speaking up right away when that fight happened. If only you had created a scene the next day and involved his parents, he would have behaved better all these years”. My parents bring up things like frequently in spite of me telling them that is a futile and hurtful discussion. Next, my parents will be visiting me soon. They are worried about the visit being uncomfortable for them although they invited themselves over. My husband and I had a big fight a few days ago and the environment at home is tense. When I told my mother this, she again mentioned being uncomfortable and I got angry that they only seem to be thinking about themselves so I told them to not come if they were so uncomfortable. My father calls me later and asks why I could not delay or stop the fight and simply keep quiet until after their visit. I told him it would have been an act and we would have been pretending like things were ok. But, he insisted that was fine and I should have not fought right now. This does not make sense to me. Either they are planning to do something when they are here which they have not told me about or they just want to come here and don’t want it to be uncomfortable for them. I am unable to understand why my father said that – are they looking out for me or themselves? There are a number of issues like that where I do not think they are truly supportive parents although they keep saying they are supportive of any decision I take. So, either they do not know how to be supportive the right way or I am being too sensitive (their words). All I know is that, after a call with them, I feel worse and not better. I have worked myself up to a point of being strong and positive no matter what happens but I feel more vulnerable and upset after I talk to them. I would like your opinion on who is right or wrong here? Am I being too sensitive and not understanding them or are they not able or willing to support me the right way? Your input will help greatly since I am considering cutting myself off from them for my sanity even though I have no other family or friends to help me through this time. Thank you for your time.