Parenting Successfully Along With Work Life

1. can you move close to office and search school also close to that place? home, office, school close means you can save commuting time.
2. hire somebody where ever you can like cooking and other chores for few months or years.
Or cook or prepare more quantities for a week on weekends.
Or ask you mom/mil to help for few months in cooking.
You can cook still when you get time and kids want a special item.
3. Make good routines for kids and others at home and train kids to follow that routine. for eating, sleeping, playing if they have fixed timings it is easy for you and them. and time will be saved.

 

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ok, so why isn't the father doing anything?

Get him to chip in with the homework, feeding the elder child, cutting veggies, cleaning dishes. There is a lot he can do to help. Kashmirflower has given some good options, but it starts with your husband

 

Look at it like this you are financially independent and have two kids who you must prioritise over all else. So, what if you were to rent a place closer to work for the week and come back "home" during the weekend. In that case your husband can learn to man up... consider it seriously and put your foot down if it comes to it.

It's not fair that you get no help and are to do every thing yourself...

 

How about putting the elder one on school bus? Or requesting a car pool with school mates who live around your place? That way you might have to drop them just once or twice a week.

As for dinner, not sure about around your place, but I have seen that in most places there are people who cook home made meals and deliver to your place for a monthly pay. They generally cook to your requirements.

Best of luck

 

NEVER say NEVER. If he hasn't done until now, it is high time he starts. Start politely though. Make him aware of the difficulties you are facing without pointing fingers. If that doesn't work, put your foot down, tell him this this this and this are your chores. It needs to be done.

 

Is Your h also gives account of his earnings to ur fil?
And also do you know how your h spends and saves his salary ?
And who bought this own house? Your fil? Or your h contributed too? Did you contribute too?

Instead of giving account to your fil, why don't you and your h give some fixed amount to run the house every month, which is like sharing all bills type , looks like your fil is head of the house, so give some fixed amount with estimating what and all are the expenses and rest of it save or invest on your and h name and kids college etc

that way you will have some control over to have some paid help in cooking or nanny help etc , you can have some say.