Parallel but compatible

Viswamitra · Jun 24, 2012

eandian;bt83888 said:

Go side by side but also give breathing space ---excellent analogy.:thumbsup

My mom used to say that couples should also be like 'scissors' when someone or something is interfering and causing trouble in the marriage.

When something is placed inbetween the two blades of the scissors, those (till then separate) blades come together and the interference is automatically cut off. ...snip snip snip in the bud.
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Dear Eandian,

Thank you for visiting this blog and your wonderful response. I have not heard of your mom's analogy and thank you for sharing it. Her statement that the couple should be together to cut the unwanted interference, is very valuable and I will remember for the rest of my life.

Viswa

GeetaKashyap · Jan 1, 2018

Viswamitra said: ↑

[JUSTIFY][JUSTIFY]Train was moving at real good speed after leaving the train station. I moved out of the seat to have some fresh air and I decided to walk towards the door and stand near the door to have some fresh air. I held on the railing carefully and moved my head a little bit out to get some air on my face. While looking out I saw the beautiful mountain range on one side and a nice looking lake on the other side of the train. After spending time watching breathtaking beauty of the nature, I spent some time watching the rail track that was running parallel to the train right next to the train. It was curving so beautifully together. The fish plates underneath the rail track were placed accurately to support the track. The crushed stones of identical size (Ballast) are nicely placed underneath the rail tracks to have a cushion effect for the wagons and locomotives that are moving at a rapid speed.

The train was turning so nicely and I was watching the train’s metal wheels. The metal wheels are curved inside the track on both sides so that the curve will prevent the train from moving out of the track on either side but at the same time allows the train to move freely on the track. The curving underneath the wagons and on top of the wagon is designed so beautifully to establish the gravity of the wagon on top of the rail track. The wagon is designed at a right size to accommodate enough passengers or goods insides but small enough not to topple out of the rail track. More I thought of all that I could not stop wondering the engineering marvel behind the design and the meticulous attention to the details. Suddenly that chain of that was broken and I was overwhelmed by real life situation.

I was wondering why there are so many differences of opinion between my spouse and myself. How nice it would be if our thoughts, likes and dislikes are identical. The life will move very quickly and nicely and I thought it would be like heaven on earth. Then my analytical mind for some strange reason started comparing the engineering marvel of the design of the wagon and the rail track with that of my life. Like a lightning, the results of that comparison came out.

Life is pretty much like a bundle with roles and responsibilities distributed among all individual components of the family. In a good family, the thoughts of husband and wife need not be identical. As a matter of fact, they can be parallel to each other but should have same objective. Their intention to be together and affinity for each other should be pretty good to run together for a long haul. Their thoughts should work like the curves in the metal wheels and when one side moves too far away from the track, the other curve should prevent it from moving further and vice versa. They need to build financial and other securities together like fish plates underneath for the safety and security of the rail track. The life should be built on a strong foundation of unconditional love just like crushed stones (Ballast) providing the cushion effect for the wagons.

The life together should be shaped like wagon’s design to have the gravity to be neutral under pleasure and pain. The purpose of the wonderful engineering design is based on safety and security of the passengers and goods and all these components together are holding the passengers and goods under their care during their journey until they reach destination. Similarly, the married life together is for safety and security of the children and the wealth that the couple build together for future. They hold all of that in trust until they reach the destination. God is providing us so much opportunity to learn the lessons in our life from everything we see day to day and we need to train our mind to learn from it.[/JUSTIFY][/JUSTIFY]
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@Viswamitra

After posting my fiction, Parallel Lines, I came across this nice article. A refreshing take on the mundane frictions in life and drawing a fine philosophical thought out of it. Wonderful.

Wish you a happy and prosperous new year 2018.

Viswamitra · Jan 1, 2018

@GeetaKashyap,

Thank you for your thoughtful complements. I am now rushing to read your fiction so that I can enjoy your writings as usual.

I reciprocate the wishes for a very enjoyable 2018.

Viswa

MonikaSG · Jan 1, 2018

Moving parallel yet different.... Very true with the perspective of couple...nice writeup...

PushpavalliSrinivasan · Jan 2, 2018

Dear Viswa,
Wow! What a comparison! Only Viswa can have these kind of thoughts while travelling in a train!
In the life journey compatibility, love, faith, mutual respect and compromise between the couple is needed.
Only thing is, in the train journey we are sure of the destination whereas in the life journey we are not sure of the destination. Only the blessed souls travel in the right path to reach the destination.
PS

Viswamitra · Jan 3, 2018

Dear Smt. Srinivasan:

I take your wonderful words of appreciation as the blessings I received for the new year. You have revealed the 5 ingredients that are needed for a peaceful life for the Grahastha.

I agree with you that instead of fixing the destination in real life, we have to perfect and enjoy the journey itself until wherever it takes us.

Viswa

Balajee · Jan 6, 2018

Viswa life would be a bore if husband and wife are similar. It is diversity and contrast, even little conflicts that make life interesting.. Remember the law of magnetism--like poles repel each other. And it is unfair to expect man and wife to be stitha pragnas under pleasure and pain.

Viswamitra · Jan 6, 2018

Dear Balajee,

You are right on target. The wife's role is to make a Bachelor Pechilar meaning speechless person. Your thoughts reminded me of a joke by Nagesh in a very old Tamil movie.

Nagesh describes a verbal fight with his wife as follows:

1) She screamed at me and I listened for a while
2) Then, I listened for a while when she screamed
3) Finally, I said something and she stopped screaming.

When friends asks him "What did you say?" He replies with a smile, "I am sorry".

HariLakhera · Jan 6, 2018

Dear Viswa,
Good one. The only problem is humans are made of Panch Tatva unlike the railway tracks, wheels or ballast made of steel and cement. Humans have feelings, egos, aspirations and most importantly individuality. Wife or husband, parents or children, siblings, bosom friends all are individuals.

Humans are made by God and railways by humans, who for obvious reasons did not inject them with these attributes otherwise we would see accidents happenings every other second.
Good for humans.
Amen.

Viswamitra · Jan 6, 2018

Dear Hari,

You are absolutely right. We are humans with emotions but we are also gifted with discrimination. We understand to what extent we can go and what would trigger the spouse. The tendency to share and care with/for each other and willingness to listen to the viewpoints of the spouse strengthens the relationship.

Viswa

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