Oscillation

Dear Smt. Jayasala:

Thank you for sharing your personal experience with your mother. But now she is in a place where she is fully aware of your happy married life.

Viswa

 

My Dear Vani,

Thank you for your wonderful response. Our whole life revolves around how our mind celebrate and withdraw. Therefore, understanding our own mind is more important than understanding people around us. Like I said earlier, ignorance is the root cause of all our sufferings. Staying above the pull and push of the mind is the key to our gaining knowledge. The mind is quick to categorize things as black or white. Its emotions and impulses considerably influence it to categorize things for us. Fear and anger are hidden in every attraction and repulsion. The mind is like a guest in a wedding where the bride's family thinks he is a VIP invited by groom and vice versa.

The best way to learn to achieve peace is to hold everything like a custodian including the family, friends and possessions, work on ceiling of desires, watch the mind's theories and conspiracies unaffected by them, focus on remaining in the present moment and strive to achieve happiness consistently.

Viswa

 

Dear Smt. GeetaKashyap:

I am deeply humbled by your kind words. As I mentioned to Cheeniya Sir, this snippet is nothing but regurgitation of what was said by the learned people as interpretation of the Scriptures. Like you said, I got very excited to read the responses of everyone here. Each one of them made so much contribution for me to learn something whether they are younger or older than me. This interactions make me a better person everyday.

Viswa

 

My Dear Vani,

The only thing that is in your control is your own reaction to a situation. Work on reducing that reaction time as much as possible. Remind you that not even a blade of grass could move without the will of God. Everything happens for a reason. That develops acceptance of what happens around you and develop a gratitude for what you are blessed with.

I have written the following in the Mind over Matter -Meditation Club and I am repeating it here for your benefit.

I have one long-term solution and one short-term solution to reduce the rumination period to get out of negative reactions. I know it works for me because of certain negative qualities I have, that I need to get rid of. But I am not sure whether it would for everyone.

The long-term solution is called "ACE"

Acceptance - I just accept the situation as is as something I am destined to face for a reason that is unknown.
Cooperation - I do everything to rationalize what was said or did quickly so that I can overcome the strain of facing negative reaction for long.
Envision - After rationalizing, I feel the future possibilities or visualize how the lessons learned would let me grow and develop

The short-term solution is called "SCALE"

Sensitivity - Watch my level of sensitivity on each such occasion
Castigation - Watch my own castigation in an argument that bites me
Analysis - Watch how much I think what was said or did
Listening/Learning - Watch how much I listened/learned
Energy - Watch how much energy is used up to such negative reactions

Exercising, walking, running, watching nature, serving someone with love, playing with a baby or pet, etc. are extremely helpful to overcome the negative reactions.

Viswa

 

Dear Thyagarajan Sir,

Thank you for highlighting the sentence you found critical to the whole snippet. I understand the mnd takes longer even after death to shut down with appropriate encryption.