To all others who might have to deal with this sooner or later - is there a more equitable solution? 1) Bring parents in via GC but they live in an apartment close by with full-time help - with husband and wife visiting often and as much as possible? May not be affordable or even acceptable. But possible, no? Also, maybe when applying for GC - always do it for both set of parents at the same time. So that the option of who gets to move in/visit and when - remains open.