opinion needed

yes god2014 i agree with you

i feel they should try to convince their families as they love each other

 

My answer to your Q : Strictly No physical relation in the name of love.. as simple as that..true love can win any situation at home..convince both the families and get married to your loved one..

 

Hello OP,

Simple answer is they should do what is acceptable to them and what they can live guilt-free.

Right & Wrong in life is definitely not black and white. "Love" is still a taboo in many house-holds, at the same time, there are also couples who are Ok with Live-in relationships before marriages.

So it boils down to individual's judgement of what is right and wrong, and finding a partner who has similar level of openness and act accordingly.

Given the circumstance, my suggestion would be to discuss with partner, spell it out, get he/she on-board and then go ahead with marriage.

Regards,
JM

 

first of all, virginity is overated in india.
ok, lets dont involve the families here. i give u another senario. what if the couple loved each other so much and had made love. later on they realise they cant settled down with each other due to some understanding or ego issue and got separated. so is it wrong if they found another lover and move on? or they should dwell on the past relationship because u hav lost ur virginity?

 

Ippadi ellam kelvi room pottu yosipingala. Namakku prachanai erpatta kadavul kitta kekalaam, andha kadavulukke prachanai yerpattirukku...........!!

Might get lost in translation so leaving the above as such.

 

IMO .. one should try to convince their respective families if they are truly in love and could not live with out each other. Its not just because they lost their virginity. It also depends on their family background and their age group. As far i am seeing the young lot, either guys or gals are not giving much importance to virginity like the olden days. They are ready to accept each other in spite of knowing their pasts/ex.

Regarding the second issue, if it is not possible to marry the person they love, they can definitely marry the person choosen by their parents. They need not feel like culprits for loosing virginity.

 

what is lost cant be retrieved back , Try to convince your respective families and get married . If due to any other reasons u are marrying someone else, then telling him openly what happened is the best solution to save your future life but we dont know how that person takes it and react , we dont know. Some persons takes it positively and lead a healthy family life and some other type of guys though initially keep quiet, later on becomes suspicious and start nagging and makes our life a real hell. But if u hide from your DH about your past and if he comes to know through some other source, it is more problomatic. So better convince your families and get married to your lover,