Once Abuser, Always Abuser. Is It Always, True ?

I believe it is not about ascertaining the fact time and again that "once an abuser always an abuser" but it is actually about knowing and appreciating one's self-worth. If your husband takes the liberty to abuse you then you must very well be cautioned that he weighs you less and trivial. Moreover, you can never take the flimsy chance of forgiving an abuser considering a remote possibility of change, because, the monster in him may appear anytime to your surprise. An offence once committed stands committed as it cannot be justified with any superficial human emotions, similarly, an intention once exhibited remains exhibited no matter how long you try to brush the same with positivity. The wise always accept the truth as it appears whereas, the fools paint a galore of excuses on the truth which leads them to failure.

Choose wisely, live well!

 

Once Abuser, Always Abuser - unless he learns a life lesson.
I am dealing with a nice husband who occasionally turns abuser like once or twice a month. Problem is he doesn't realize he is abusing. He just thinks he is reacting because of my action. That's the way he was bought up and there is no hope left that he changes. I myself didn't know that it is abuse and tolerating it is also a crime. I am holding on to this relation because of my kids though I started retaliating. Only time can answer how long I will continue this battle.

 

Some will change but others will not

 

They dont change. It's their personality