Ok..I have to get it out....no more lying..REAL reasons for me to go to India..

What does your DH think about this plan? And how old are your kids? If they are older then will they want to move back? How will this affect your husband's career?
You should make a balance sheet of pros and cons. If it is an option, a temporary move of 6 months or so might help you test the waters.

 

The reasons u have stated are very common for all of us ! The livliness in India cannot be compared to anything here!! But the biggest question u will face is if ur kids want to move their !! Even if u and dh want to move, u have to see if ur kids are at a age that they can adjust !

 

OP, from your original post alone, I think that your reasons are not valid.
As you admit, you do seem to be influenced quite a bit by the movies/videos.

India during vacations is different from the India that we actually live and work in, IF you have been living in a developed country for some years. You/husband/kids will have to face the darker side such as power cuts, traffic jams, rude salespersons and people at Government offices and the like.

Agreed, we all grew up in the above environment in India, but coming back after having stayed in the US for a while is different.

IMO, unless one is clear and has concrete reasons to get back to India (which in my case would be something like aging parents/PILs, better schools for kids, chances for either H or W to move up the corporate ladder etc.) R2I will not be as successful as one would imagine. There will always be the question of "what if?" What if kids had the opportunity to study in better schools in the US, what if we were able to take them on more vacations to exotic places, more material comfort etc. etc.

Food, functions etc. are a good reason to return, but not in the long-term IMO. During my past 2 trips to India, I have been feeling that relatives and friends are getting busier-of course they are excited to see you and all that, but everyone has their own schedules and priorities. It is not like the good old childhood days when everyone gathers together for a gala time and people are making time for each other. My younger cousins say that they are too busy with school and college projects to even talk on the phone.
Maybe this is happening only to me-not sure.

If you and H are sure that you will be happier and more peaceful in India, returning will be successful. Do it for your own happiness and do not have any expectations from the country or people.

 

no it is not worth it ...hv lived in blr for good amt of yrs and in many cities in india, n short term outside the country personally find mumbai better ... but std of living and basic needs are far far more better in the US,

 

Dear Anika,

You have very valid reasons to come back to India. if kids are less than ten year old they would adjust fine. It may take a couple of months. I know quite some families who are back home and happy. It is all in the attitude. I have asked a cousin of mine why they came back. Both replied that they feel comfortable among Indians. There are good schools in Bangalore. Most important of all...to me people and the whole set up matters.
Syamala

 

Reasons in OP are not so valid for r2i from what i know. Good u have stated honest reasons, but it is not sustainable. Like u said, mostly movies show this and ur under that influence

 

Hi,

I feel as a woman all ur points really correct... Also am ok with ur kids as they r very small.. Education and discipline is something better in India, i feel..

But my only concern is ur husband career... Working in India is hell.. Even if u put thrice the amount of work u do here, salary cannot be matched with that.. Besides salary, there will be politics, competition, back stabbing etc.. Work culture is something marvelous here... Unless corruption is gone in India, people will not be allowed to work peacefully..

Movies, festivals and frnds are so occasional..but men r the ones to face everyday scenario.. If he is ok to return, then u can ve masti there.. and ur reasons are not quite kiddish though.. Also I feel, frnds and group ve to be in connect since 20s and 30s.. Now u shud also think about people at ur age in India who can be really social other than their responsibilities..

 

You actually highlighted several reasons I'd like to settle in India.

The dynamics are so different. You can spot the warm people there (after you've been there a while), and dress in Western or Indian attire, depending on your mood.

And don't forget about child-care. It's easier to balance life there because there is a support system of your ILs (if they like their grandkids) or your relatives.

Trial run of 6 months is a good idea.