Hi All, I am in my 30s and married for 3 years. My big issue is I dono how to tell my family and relatives that we are not interested in having kids. Having a kid and it's all responsibilities scares me always. I had a very bad childhood. My mother died due to cancer when I was six and my father remarried and neglected us. So me and my siblings raised apart in a relatives house. The day I arrived at my relative's home my responsibilities started like taking care of their kids doing small house chores as I grow my responsibilities increased. It was like a full-time nanny job I felt. Get up early and do the house chores, cooking, make their kids get ready for school, feed them and then rush to my school, and again the same thing in the evening, make them do their home works, school projects and so on. Used to get scoldings and beat for their kids every other mistake. I always felt like I never had a childhood like other. Or might be this just my thinking. If I would have been grown with my parents I would have the same responsibilities or I dono. All these things left a deep scar in mind and having my own child also scares me. Till today I get dreams like still, I am in my relative's place and I missed my daily chores because of that I am getting scoldings and all. I am not able to come out those things. My husband knows all these things and never pressurize for anything and he is supportive to me for all the things till now. I am getting so much pressure from my in-laws saying that its already been 3 years you guys married and you are already 30 when you guys will have kids. Till now I used to say that I should get settle down in my job and we should get settle down financially well or I just used to change the topic whenever this topic arises. Now looks like I can't do this anymore. Neither I nor my husband is interested in having a child. We are happy as is. When I told my siblings that we are not interested in having a child they asked me does my husband has any problem or do I have any issues in getting conceived. People started speaking in front of us saying we don't have a brain, running behind materialistic things, what you guys will do when you get old, we might have a problem with having a child but not showing it , started treating us like we made big sin. Once I told my husband that people are talking about us like this, my husband told me not to mind about others. People have started telling me that you will regret later for your decision, its already late just have a kid and finish that one work. But I don't want to do it as some work or because of others pressure, I should get that feeling and I should be mentally prepared to take that responsibility. Please need your suggestions. How should I Strongly tell the family and friends?