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No more lies --Is it possible?

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by kishoremommy, Jan 19, 2012.

  1. kishoremommy

    kishoremommy Platinum IL'ite

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    I have started this thread as a motivation.

    Three years before DH presented me a book.' Autobiography of a yogi' written by Yogananda.I have read it thrice and each and every time I read the book,it gets more interesting with new dimensions.

    One particular quote was very interesting.Swamiji was saying if a person doesn't speak lies for 12 years continuously,then whatever he tells becomes true that is ,it becomes sathya vaakku.

    I wanted to give it a try.I never liked lying but,in unavoidable situation I have told some.

    From the day my second son was born,I stopped telling lies.Even in some tempting situations,I avoided lying.

    No lies means not even a single one.and also no white lies.

    18 months have passed and I am still following my principle.Don't know whether I will pass through the coming 10 and half years without lying.

    So far,by always speaking the truth,I think I have gained these things.

    1.My self confidence have grown a lot.Since I am not lying,I am not scared of being caught.

    2.I have gained more respect for my words in my family's close circle who know my principle,particularly from my DH.

    3.When DS is asking me something and if I say "No" or "later" ,he believes me without any explanation.He says,"I know .You must be right.You won't lie.I believe you.".

    4.Lastly ,I feel some strange satisfaction and a uniqueness in my life quality.

    You can also try and feel it.
     
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    Pallavi4me Platinum IL'ite

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    You must be appreciated kishoremommy...

    It requires lot of determination & guts to maintain this and to avoid even sweet / white lies.. commendable
    :bowdown
    Good going and Wish you all the best
     
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    kishoremommy Platinum IL'ite

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    Pallavi,it's not that much hard.Initially,out of habit we will be tempted.But,when you cross that stage,it is easy.

    Surprisingly,we will start to think honestly and straight forward and we will a find an invisible connection between our thoughts words and action.

    In course of time,this will become a habit and in turn forms our personality.

    Thank you .
     
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    kishoremommy Platinum IL'ite

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    Okay,I need a suggestion from you ladies and I don't want to open a new thread.

    What would you answer when somebody asks you your or your husband's monthly income?

    Nosy people are all around us.Some times,irrespective of their age and educational status ,some persons have asked me.

    I don't want to answer them with exact figures and I don't want to lie either.

    Please,suggest some way of politely deviate them.
     
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    kylie Gold IL'ite

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    dear Kishoremommy,

    This is where my "little lies" come in handy !! What you have done in the past 18 months is simply great but what to do in situations like this ??

    I believe that the intention behind the "lie" is more important than the "lie" itself. Many a times you are faced with situations where your "truth" will hurt the other person. For eg : What do you tell your MIL who has gifted you a saree which you might never wear because the colour n design is "too loud" for you ? Here, do you give your honest opinion OR looking at her "sweet gesture" and effort put in, "lie" to her and tell her that her choice is really good and see the smile on her face ?

    Life can throw many situations where you know that speaking the truth would distance you from your relatives and friends - then what do you do ? do you go ahead with the truth and hurt their feelings or simply tag along?

    I wish there was a way out - if any of you know how to tackle these sticky situations, please post. Thanks kishoremommy for this thread...... i hope we get some answers !!

    love,
    kylie
     
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    prana IL Hall of Fame

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    wow, nice intention Kishoremommy..Just go ahead..I too dont tell lies but some white lies :)...

    If anyone ask about salary or any personal questions, just tell them frankly 'this is our personal, we cant disclose it' with a smiling face..This is what I used to do...:)
     
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    Hi kishoremommy,

    Hats off to your speaking the truth always. However regarding "sathya vaakku" I am not sure I would want that. That would mean extreme control over what one thinks, utters, mutters as whatever thought or said will come true, i.e. not a single negative thought should enter your mind in even the direst of conditions since whatever you say/think is going to come true.
     
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    kishoremommy Platinum IL'ite

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    Kylie,

    Thanks for your reply.

    Regarding what you said as an example,I would tell her politely that the saree could have been better.But,once in front of her I ill wear it .Just to make her happy.

    May be I haven't met any adverse situation so far where my will power was tested.

    I am a home maker leading a simple life.Had I been working somewhere,where situations are different,(customer care,sales,Human Resources,etc.)this conviction is entirely impossible.

    A simple truth never hurts anybody.Honesty itself brings a force around you,that makes everybody understand you and your conviction.

    Do you know?White lies do not make others happy,always.You cannot make all around you happy all the time.

    I just want you to try for some months and enjoy the happiness it brings.
     
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    kishoremommy Platinum IL'ite

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    If we say,"this is personal",won't it sound rude.

    Ofcourse,asking one's salary is also rude.DH once told an inquisitive relative like this."That's not important.If I tell you the amount,you may think it as low or judge it as high."

    My sister use to reply like this,"I am earning what is enough to run a family.Not,much."

    If my grandma asks, how should I answer.Saying personal sounds rude to me.

    Don't you agree?
     
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    Negative words or thoughts have no connection with the conviction of speaking truth.What I am trying to say is,speak the truth.

    Ye,what you have said is true.we have to keep a tab on our thoughts,speech and action.In simple words,All time alert.But,that is somewhat similar to dhyanam.Isn't it?
     

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