Hi all, I have recently joined this forum. Hope to have a nice time here I am recently married 4 mnths back. I was not interested in marriage and was always concerned about my career which I am now also. My marriage just happened when I fell in love with a person. It was like decided by heavens. I met him in my office and we started liking each other. I never felt mature enough to handle marriage when it happened (I am 25 :-D) but his parents were in a hurry. Their family belong to rural area and you know people there mostly are in hurry for marriage of their kids. I was not ready but he was behind me to marry. I talked about this to my parents, they were reluctant for this marriage as they knew that since we belong to city having urban lifestyle and his family with rural lifestyle, this was not a good match for me. I just didnt listen to them and forced them for marriage. Now after getting married when reality struck me and I met his family I repent my decision. Its not that he or his family are doing anything bad to me but I just don't like their rural ways of living, their rural language and thinking. I feel like an odd one out there. They all are like living in backward ways but we in cities live in standardized way. There they consume things like pan, tambaku, gutaka etc which I was just not aware before. Even though I and my husband live in Mumbai, that's fine but I just dont feel like going to his home, I like living a city lifestyle in modern society. I feel very bad now, I feel that I am hurting him & his family since I dont want to be like them and dont feel like being with them. I am always thinking whether I took a wrong decision, I will never want my children to learn their language or behaviour. I am feeling very depressed nowadays since I am not able to come out with any solution, I just cannot be like them, they live backwardly and I just dont feel attached to them. Recently my inlaws came to our home and obviously they didnt like city style. My mother-in-law will say things and I know thats because of different lifestyles so I really dont mind much about this. My husband is a nice person but I feel angry on him since he didnt tell me his families reality and didnt think for a moment that how his culture is and by bringing a girl from modern society what will be consequences? how can he expect me to live with his villager type people. I dont know what to do? This thing has really taken away my peace and now we are planning to go to his home in few months and my nights sleep has gone away:spin I just dnt want to go there, I simply hate there culture and feel like I am drowning :drowning Please advice me.... I dont want to tell anything to my parents, they will worry.