Hi, This has been bothering me a bit these days. I have seen my mom having lots of female friends for years and still get along very well and I have seen a very good emotional between her and her friends. They were there for each other even after many years when they all moved through different phases of like schools to marriages to kids, their marriages and grand kids etc. Still have the same bond and affection in their talks even of they meet after years. On the other hand I somehow am feeling like I am not able to maintain friendships beyond certain time. TH elongest friendship that I had was for ~10 years. I have already posted a thread in this section about a year ago, but now I am over that sadness and concentrating more on my family kids, etc. However I made a few new friends who I have never met before , but recently met here in a foreign land, I guess the factors that I felt connected to them are - language, family situations like same aged kids etc. I have also got in touch with one of my close friends in college who happened to be living some what closely to where I am now. However I think these friendships are not going where I wanted to be either. After about a year and half, I noticed that I am thinking twice to talk freely, with this college friend. Not many bad incidents but just once , we had a big argument, where she pin pointed how I talked about her in front of my friend. She came with her family (3 kids and her husband) to stay at ours for 15 days over XMAS holidays and we were sharing all house work etc. Then she recently pin pointed to me and said I was insulting her infornt of one of my other friends one day saying " she would not give me a chance to clean up the dishes , she would finish as soon as we finish cooking etc" I agree I said that , but not in the sense that she understood, I was very appreciative of her helping nature etc. All my family were worried If I would be stressed when they heard from me that they are coming to stay over for 15 days, so I told this even to my parents that she was helping me with everything and we were sharing. Not sure why she took it in such a bad way. She also said "you now have got many other friends who are growing more close to you" . But deep down I feel like this is not going to end up in the way that I want. I had to constantly watch my words thinking what she will interfere from them. SHe does not work and I am working, so I think she feels like I am dominating her/ insulting her in front of my other friends here etc. Which I have no intention of and I clearly told her many times that she manages many things much better way than me. So in short, I was feeling like Todays friendships especially between ladies is short lived and subject to many factors such as whether one is working or not, who is earning more, whose kids are better looking, good at studies , lifestyles , Who maintains their looks etc..... all these things are constantly getting in way of their friendships? One we grow close and start discussing these things openly somehow there is gap forming... Is that right? what is your observation? Am I thinking too much? How many of you are able to maintain a close relationship with someone , who you would talk daily/regularly atleast on a weekly basis or living closely to you or meet everyday at work etc , who knows more of your personal stuff etc .... and still maintain that relationship over many years? What was your trick?