Neighborly Communications

Dear @Agatha83 ,

You know you spin magic with your words. Very interesting to read your experiences and observations. I have a neighbor but more of a friend now who always says that her only goal in life is teach me how to say no! Growing up in different houses (exactly opposite to your experience) because of dad's job though I did not have bad experiences, it was always mom's job to have these friendly relationships and we had a fairly decent ones. While that strengthened my nature and taught me the skill of making friends no matter where or what, it also kind of gave me a wish that if I only I could stay put in a place which happened after marriage and that skill to make friends came in handy so much so that my aunts and uncles who visit us casually joke with a "oh there is no need for anyone to take census report here. Our S pretty much knows everyone in her neighborhood" which I surely take as a compliment.

I do agree with you - that setting of boundaries, expectations is something we all need to learn both as givers and receivers and for some reason that is the message universe wants me to assimilate today! Often when I feel frustrated trying to help someone beyond my means and show that frustration I seem to be slammed with a sense of guilt by the other person who seemingly appears innocent even though it is clear they are using you. So I cling on to that dear friend who is teaching me to learn to say no when it is overwhelming and shut that another person from my friend who constantly says "If we can help, why not?" because setting that boundary is healthy for us and our relationships. Thank you for bringing that out so well. I sure needed that.