We recently bought a house in new community. Its been 4 months, after we moved here 2-3 Indian families also moved here. Looks like there are total not more than 10 Indian families and few families are settled as they moved 1-2 years back. Now these established families created social groups - some only with Indians. The people who is here from long time (1-2 yrs) started all these things recently. Now they want to do pot luck and each family has to host every month.And one family (who initiated the potluck idea) decided to host after no one was responding to host the potluck (It was awkward).They decided a date,without much thought we said we will involve. But at that time we didn't discuss anything like who all are coming, food etc.. Now that family asked to RSVP and discuss about food based on attendees. We haven't responded yet, but only 2-3 families are coming so far(all with kids and here from more than 1 year). We have no problem to go and meet (everyone will be strangers- but few known faces), but I have some petty problems. As we recently moved from 1 bd apartment to this 4 bd big house, we didn't setup the house at all. Dont have basic things - no window treatment, didn't buy master suite yet -still managing with old bedroom set, small sofa, not much utensils as I was living alone before. Me and my husband are so picky to buy things so we are taking our own time to buy things one by one. And also holidays coming up (with deals), we want to buy essential stuff (big sofa,nice kitchen stuff,rooms setup etc).But believe me we continuously buying some stuff whenever we like them. Now my problem is, How can I host a pot luck with no proper sitting arrangements and essential utensils. We didn't invite anyone to our house yet except my sister. The plan is, our parents are planning to come here in dec or next year march, so we want to give party to all our friends,colleagues and this neighbors too. by the time house will be somewhat welcoming.. We both are kind of introvert, can't say to these people we can come but we can't host for few months.As only 2-3 families coming, my turn will come fast and probably next as no one was ready to host this time. So we want to ignore this pot luck until we invite everyone to party and then continue in this group setting if they allow. Not sure if this is right thing, so please tell me what I have to do.