I get you ladies.... You speak my mind.. Thanks If he is my neighbor or friend, I would not have this much of difficulties in changing them. I would rather leave them for good. But unfortunately, this person happen to be my husband, and we are in a marriage with kids. His happiness, success, failure and all is ours now. So, I have a greater responsibility in changing him, else what he faces today may be the case with everyone else tomorrow. This is my fear. I am already seeing it now... I am planning to have an open discussion with my husband tomorrow.... I need suggestions from you all.... He is a man with few words. He also has no listening capacity. So, explaining him on something is very difficult task for me. I want him to understand that he should behave normal if not good. He should not treat people low or show off as if he is the best person on this earth. People follow him naturally by seeing his qualities, and not by seeing his richness or self praising words. Eventhough if someone follows him after listening to his self praising words, the person will come behind him for his selfish need only. And he can simply leave him in no time once he thinks his need is no longer going to be fed. Having good souls around itself a huge strength... I worked in a company for 5 yrs, and gained lots of good remarks from all. I resigned my job in 2008, went abroad, and came back in 2011. When I wanted to re-join the same company in 2012, I had no issues. They wanted me, and gave me a high post. But my husband joined the same company in 2009 to my seat after my depature, and had issues with many and resigned in 2010. Now there are plenty of vacancies, but no one consider his applications. As a staff member and as a person, everyone likes me as before. But when it comes to certain situation to consider me as a wife of my husband, I still find it odd with some staff. So, imagine how much negativity they must be having against my husband within this 1 year of his working time here. These are the things that I want my husband to see.. But I am sure, before even I start the conversation, he would come back with a new remedy and say.."see from Dec 2013 on wards my stars are changing, and I am going to get good lucks forever'... This has been the case forever.