Negative Thinking

Paripoorna · Mar 16, 2019

GeetaKashyap said: ↑

Negative thinking makes one wallow in self-pity; negative minded people tend to be jealous, selfish, aggressive, sarcastic, intolerant to others happiness, they have high expectations and so on. These are basic qualities in most people. Real evolvement or maturity is to overcome these basic qualities and achieve better qualities where we are able to think beyond ourselves and our selfish goals.
No..i am not selfish, intolerant, jealous or aggressive. I agree that at times i am sarcastic.
I have not been like this earlier. Once in a while i was getting this thought and was able to overcome it easily by diverting my mind. Reading has helped me a lot and hence the addiction to IL.
This development is in the last 6 months. I think i am indulging in self pity and lose patience very very quickly.
In my family, no one has this issue. My mom, dad and sibling are very positive people. They are my motivation.
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I get what you are saying. Thank you for your inputs.

Gauri03 · Mar 18, 2019

Paripoorna said: ↑

When i say negative thinking the first thing is 1.fear of losing the near and dear ones.
Its been 20 yrs that i lost my family member and i still sit and cry at times for the loss.
2: About my child's behaviour and her future. A lot of her qualities are from me which scares me. And i worry that she may struggle with these qualities.
3. My short temper.
4: Whenever i take a task like job change and do not succed in 6 months i keep cribbing about it day in and day out with my husband, 2 of my colleagues and my sibling. It continues and continues . Here i feel by doing this i am straining my relationship with them.
5: I worry for the people's comment or their ..ignorance which they purposefully do it and again crib about it.
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It feels wrong to link to your own posts but I really didn't have an alternative. These write ups were the easiest to find. I think you might benefit from reading them. They address some of the worries you've mentioned. See if they are useful.

Mind Over Matter: The Meditation Club - Dichotomy of control
Mind Over Matter: The Meditation Club - Overcoming negative rumination
Mind Over Matter: The Meditation Club - Radical acceptance

If you have the patience scan through the thread. It has many incredible posts by Viswa, Geeta, Srama and other wise souls of IL.

Paripoorna · Mar 18, 2019

Thank you @Gauri03, i shall bookmark these link and go through them.

Thanks again.

sokanasanah · Mar 22, 2019

Paripoorna said: ↑

My parents helped me and my inlaws are helping me.My Husband is supporting me and kid is also helping.
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I am not able to count my blessings.
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But, you just did!

anika987 · Mar 22, 2019

Paripoorna said: ↑

I have been struggling with the Negative Thinking. This is impacting majorly in my day to day activities.
Whenever i sit and try to note down the positives, i cannot think of one in the entire day.
The impact is so much that i am not able to thank for the fortunate things i have in life.
I started with Yoga and meditation. Its been a week and had to stop it as i met with a small accident.
As i am sitting at home, i feel so worthless, helpless and not able to control my emotions. For the first time i have become so dependent on others. My parents helped me and my inlaws are helping me.My Husband is supporting me and kid is also helping. Inspite of all these, i feel i am the only one who is suffering .

I am not able to count my blessings.

I need desperate help to overcome this.
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You feel low because of what?

Is it a career you are seeking? Go for it
Is it higher studies ? Go for it
Is it a fit health and body? Go for it

You are only responsible for your happiness.You have to be happy with yourself first.

What will make you feel better?
What are your goals?
What are you afraid of?

Write down your feelings whatever it is and look at it.

Channelize your thoughts and focus towards some goal. Small
Or big does not matter.

Go for a walk and start some hobby which you like.It will get you motivated.

I always advocate fitness.Not to look great in clothes BUT it changes you mentally and physically.Makes you much more relaxed.

Try Ashwaganda.Helps a lot.

Write down your plus points.read it again and again.
Develop some routine.
Have a small aim.
Keep busy and distract yourself.

God bless

Paripoorna · Mar 22, 2019

sokanasanah said: ↑

But, you just did!

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Oh yes! Now i am able to count it...

Paripoorna · Mar 22, 2019

anika987 said: ↑

You feel low because of what?

Is it a career you are seeking? Go for it
Is it higher studies ? Go for it
Is it a fit health and body? Go for it

You are only responsible for your happiness.You have to be happy with yourself first.

What will make you feel better?
What are your goals?
What are you afraid of?

God bless
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@anika987 ,
I am making some changes to the daily routine. I started with yoga but had to stop it after i met with an accident. Once i recover from the injury, i will start back.