Neeya Naana - Latest Episode

Pallavi4me · Jun 24, 2013

I haven't watched the show yesterday, and generally don't watch this show too. But I got the drift of the discussion happened on the show from the comments here.

Apart from taking sides on either of the side, here I strongly feel these Talk show people might have asked the participants to put forth their aggressively, only then it would look like a war front and increases TRP.

These days, I came to the conclusion that these talk shows in TV are not required at-all as they don't talk optimally / on middle ground but tend towards extremes. In the initial days of when these discussion programmes are started it was with a intent to understand different view points, but now it turned to just argument shows with no healthy discussion.

sumanrathi · Jun 24, 2013

damini said: ↑

Cooking can be considered as an art. Just like certain people have an interest for gardening or painting or music, cooking appeals to certain people. But in our country a girl 'has to love cooking'. women have to cook well whether they like to cook or not & whether they are foodie or not.

I feel if both husband & wife are working & if they can afford they should have a cook. One of my cousin has a cook & it gives her a lot more of time for herself & family. Another cousin who works full time definitely finds it exhausting to cook after a hectic day. In both cases the husbands don't cook.

I like cooking. I do it as though it is my hobby. Cooking a dish perfectly gives me more high than eating it. Appreciation definitely makes me happy but it will be same for a artist who comes up with a beautiful drawing.

Sometimes 'Neeya Naana ' becomes one-sided with even the guest & host supporting one side. I felt that way in the episode between parents and children in which only the childrens' views were validated.
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Cooking universally done by female only the difference is we are giving much important to cook at home in Europeans most of the day they will have at restaurants only.

Also male may or may not be enter into kitchen it deepens on the person.

krvchitra · Jun 24, 2013

hi i found the whole show confusing ,people were not clear of what they were talking,older ppl should come to the present days' convenience & should not thrust their ideas.

vidhyalakshmid · Jun 25, 2013

As Sumanrathi said, in western countries cooking is not a big deal. They got more ready to eat foods, just to be microwaved and to be eaten. In India still it is a big deal, social issue, prestige issue and people will never change. India is the country which has the most diabetic patients, it is because of inefficient eating.
In India if the men are cooking they have to go through teasing among their circles. But it is not so in the western countries.
People may say that now a days men are cooking.May be IT people, but what is the overall percentage of men cooking? Majority of men still feel egoistic about not cooking!

luckwaves · Jun 25, 2013

vidhyalakshmid said: ↑

As Sumanrathi said, in western countries cooking is not a big deal. They got more ready to eat foods, just to be microwaved and to be eaten. In India still it is a big deal, social issue, prestige issue and people will never change. India is the country which has the most diabetic patients, it is because of inefficient eating.
In India if the men are cooking they have to go through teasing among their circles. But it is not so in the western countries.
People may say that now a days men are cooking.May be IT people, but what is the overall percentage of men cooking? Majority of men still feel egoistic about not cooking!
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Sorry to contradict ...
Yes India is the country which has the most diabetic patient but the reason is not in efficient eating, it is because of physical inactivity and high fiber/ high calorie intake (as we Indians cant avoid rice ) . Hope you know the defects/drawbacks of eating ready to eat food and western people say Americans are prone to heart disease .

Anyways , if Men as to cook then where ever they are they will do . Of course yes most of the men say no to cooking because of ego/ laziness . My only point is Men will be Men where ever they are.

aminroop · Jun 25, 2013

indianguy2010 said: ↑

There was one place in the show, when one woman (on the side which hates cooking), told.....by the time she enters the kitchen, after finishing cooking, she is tired and exhausted.......hence, not in a 'healthy' mindset......fearing that she may have to say, 'no', when the husband wants it.......or even if he wants it, she just participates in it, without herself not enjoying it. Now because, she has someone else to cook, she is not exhausted in kitchen. Her energy is not drained. By the time, she enters the bedroom, she is 'healthy' and in a good mood.......and does not have to say ,'no', when the husband wants it, not only that, she can participate in it with real enthusiasm too.....

What was immensely amazing to me was the way in which that woman could convey, the essence of what she wanted to convey , without using any explicit words, like 'love making' or 'quickie'.

According to me, (though I can not speak on behalf of the entire male gender of this planet), that is the single most important point in the entire discussion.

There may be some men, who would love a wife, because of her extra-ordinary and dedicated cooking skills. But, I am sure, these men would be a minority. On the contrary, a vast majority of men, would love that wife, ...........who loves, love-making.

(sorry, I can not convey my message, with so much decent words, as that women did....I am scared I may get a warning from Moderator, "IG, do not use explicit words")...............Yet, I will try :

There is an English proverb which says, "You can win a man's heart through his stomach". You ask the men close to you, in your life......whether this proverb is right. They would disagree. The key to win a man's heart is not through his stomach....(Hope I have conveyed my message.., as implicitly as I can)
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only IG can bring sex into this discussion!

I don't agree to having to 'win' anyone's heart by any means. I wudnt care to bend backwards to 'win' anybody or anything. I wud prefer if the person loves me for what I am than for what I cud be or for what I should be or what I ought to be or for what all I cud do to win his/her heart...irrespective of whether I aim at his stomach or 6 inches below it.

sumanrathi · Jun 25, 2013

luckwaves said: ↑

Sorry to contradict ...
Yes India is the country which has the most diabetic patient but the reason is not in efficient eating, it is because of physical inactivity and high fiber/ high calorie intake (as we Indians cant avoid rice ) . Hope you know the defects/drawbacks of eating ready to eat food and western people say Americans are prone to heart disease .

Anyways , if Men as to cook then where ever they are they will do . Of course yes most of the men say no to cooking because of ego/ laziness . My only point is Men will be Men where ever they are.
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I am male I don't feel i will loose my manalism because of cooking. My wife and my kids are having good respect on me they obey what i say everything is cool..

I advice my kids we should have peaceful happy family with lot of fun like eating, playing etc, at the same time each and every one should their responsibility too we have nice happy world

I hate to have frozen or ready to eat food stuffs, now I am living alone I used to cook daily everything is fresh.

because of consuming heavy carbohydrate we Indians are getting diabetic now a days, weekly twice or thrice we should have some European style food too

Any way you can have anything provided you should burn that chollories, that we are not doing this is the main reason

SangeeVenkee · Jun 25, 2013

Like/Hatred towards cooking would vary from person to person.
People who dont like cooking will have to still live with it bcoz of family & financial pressures...People who are in comfortable zone in liberal families, find an alternate solution to it as having a cook...like the Lady Manager...
On the other hand people who love cooking are willing do it, even if they have the choice to have a cook like the Lady Doctor...So it all varies from person to person based on their family/financial situation, working/homemaker and liking/hatred.

No one can be judged as good/bad wife/mom based on this.

luckwaves · Jun 25, 2013

sumanrathi said: ↑

I am male I don't feel i will loose my manalism because of cooking. My wife and my kids are having good respect on me they obey what i say everything is cool..

I advice my kids we should have peaceful happy family with lot of fun like eating, playing etc, at the same time each and every one should their responsibility too we have nice happy world

I hate to have frozen or ready to eat food stuffs, now I am living alone I used to cook daily everything is fresh.

because of consuming heavy carbohydrate we Indians are getting diabetic now a days, weekly twice or thrice we should have some European style food too

Any way you can have anything provided you should burn that chollories, that we are not doing this is the main reason

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Sumanrathi,

Good to hear that you cook at home and wish more men follow your path .

My say is cooking not a factor/ tool to attract the spouse .

peartree · Jun 26, 2013

SangeeVenkee said: ↑

No one can be judged as good/bad wife/mom based on this.
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Thank you. This was the thought running through my mind during the entire show. The people on the side of liking to cook seemed to be very judgmental about the other side and making statements like they were missing some great joy in life by not cooking with their own hands to serve their husband/children. I really did not understand the whole assumption made by the doctor side that a woman somehow HAS to like to cook and if not, she is in someway inadequate.

Also, with some women mentioning that they cooked because they did not want their kids getting close to naathanar etc., I felt it very cheap and almost akin to manipulating the child!! Did you teach your children that the only thing they will find a person worthy of their liking is by that person's cooking skills??? Very sad...