Mom & Dad walked out of my grandmother’s joint family home with 2 little kids due to differences. They both worked hard with very little to start and providing for myself and my brother’s education. Growing up my mom/dad told us how important education is and pushed us to peruse our dream jobs. I should attribute all my success to them, being a girl when they have limited resources I never felt my education/need is secondary(even though my extended family is not like this) and also I am 1st girl to start working in the family. Though my dad started with nothing 30 years ago due to his smart money planning he now is doing better than any of his siblings in terms of money, both kids married, settled in US jobs. In this process they made lot of sacrifices because we were living only on my dad’s salary. Mom came to US to help me with my delivery. Now she opened up to me saying my dad is not trusting her with money management. He gives very less money to run home and she hardly can reach 15th day of month and had to struggle for rest of the month. He is not like this until 3-4 years ago. Note that my mom is not spending on herself/luxury but need to buy veggies/fruits for my dad(my mom doesn’t eat veggies/fruits) as he is on special diet and everyday household expenses. She says he counts every rupee and gives her exact amount and if the price of a fruit is more on that day then she will end up buying less. She got pissed off fought with dad and told him to buy his own groceries. My dad has money, he gets very good salary but he bought a plot on my brother’s name and needs money to start construction. When my dad visited US to see my daughter I told him not to take loan to construct house for my brother as he is nearing retirement and that we do not know if my brother will return to India at this point. Myself and my brother clearly told him to enjoy his life now and not to bother about saving for us. But he is not listening to any of us, now he is all alone in India as my mother is still with me and now asking my brother/SIL to send him money for construction and also wants to apply loan in India on my brother/SIL name. None of us like this idea, my brother just entered 30’s and is planning to start family soon and buy home here. My mom tried to convince him to not ask money from my brother and reminded him about their start up struggle from zero(my brother is doing same now in US). My dad got angry and stopped taking her calls from past 5 days. I should mention that my dad has anger issues, doesn’t know what he is saying in anger and usually gives silent treatment if things does not go his way. My mom said he stopped talking to her last year for 4 months because he is upset mom did not get fair share of her dad’s property. I don’t want to go into details but yes my mom did not get fair share and I had to mention that we faced financial discrimination from my mother’s family and my dad was never liked by my mother’s family, its always hi-bye relationship with back talking even tough mistake is on their side. 1. Myself and my brother doesn’t want any properties from my dad, We want them to enjoy their life. What’s the point of having lot of property - he is not treating my mom well and they both are not happy. How do I deal with his anger issues? 2. My dad asked my brother to send X$ to him every month for construction but my brother said he could only send half of that as he is planning to start family here. Out of everyone my dad should understand this better, but he is not listening to any of us. How to convince him to not ask money? 3. I am planning to talk to him. He has health issues, went thru Angiogram 5 years ago, on strict diet for diabetes and high BP. Please give me pointers on how to convince him to have happy and worry free life now with mom(My previous talk with him went in vein)?