Here is something that I kept in my heart from last 10 years. But its killing me day by day. Please read advice what should I do. Sorry for the long post. · I have married 10 years before and it’s an arranged marriage when I was just out of college. DH is 7 yrs older than me · DH is from very poor family and we are middle class. He did his Phd and settled in US when we got the alliance. I thought he might be a hardworking and smart guy to achieve phd in young age and to be settled in US and thought we both can work and build our finances. So never bothered about his financial status and said ok for match. And he lost his mom when he is 2 and he has 2 elder brothers who are married there is Zero support from his family in any matter which I’m ok with. · Everything was fine and we got married, very next day we went to Tirupathi when we reach the place his younger brother gave me newspaper and I took it, my DH took me side and said what’s going on between you I didn’t exactly get what he is talking and I said nothing. When we are coming back he said what is lacking in me !! YES ALL THESE AFTER FIRST DAY OF OUR WEDDING. I was 22 when I got married and no boyfriends or anything. I cried a lot he consoled me. I didn’t mention anything to my parents as they are happy that their daughter got married so I don’t want to make them sad. Everything was fine and he repeated that same exact words when we did our Laxmi puja and I hand over prasdam to his younger brother along with others. BTW his brothers never mis behaved with me. I stayed only 4 days in their home after wedding moved back to US. · In US first few months is fine and he started saying those weird words like are u happy are you enjoying whenever I speak with his friend who happened to be our neighbor again there is no mistake from other end they used say hi hello and that’s it. · We moved to different place with in US, there he is fine for couple years and then he used to make same remarks whenever I speak with one of my friends DH..I never speak closely with other genders except casual Hi Hello. I’m closer with their wife’s. We lived here 6 yrs. · He is unemployed for couple yrs and I earned and maintained whole family. Worked until I go to labor and started working after 5 weeks with a c-section delivery and a toddler. My mom was here to help me.He used to stay home all day and say all these useless words even when I’m 8 months pregnant. · Again we moved to another place for better opportunities. Where is unemployed for 4 months later I recommended him in my work place and he got a contracting job without an interview. And They made him fulltime later. He is fine here from last 1 yr and started blaming me again whenever I speak with my male colleagues. · He didn’t save anything before marriage and even though he has PHd he is very poor in communicating in English and very low class when dealing with elders and uses all sorts of bad words. Which Unfortunately I didn’t know before wedding. We had two kids and I’m adjusting for everything for the sake of my kids and for my parents. · He is a good dad and takes care of kids very well. And I feel he lives me too but he don’t express it even though he is responsible in areas. · Sometimes I feel I have no value in his heart. · The only thing I want to know is why he thinks I flirt around with other men. Even though I really communicate formally with them. · There are other women I our friends group who talk very close to other men in group along with my DH..but he has no issues with them. · His attitude is causing lot of stress in me even to communicate with people at work as needed. · What can I do..please advise ladies.