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Discussion in 'Life Without Spouse' started by PeaceAlways, Jan 21, 2012.

  1. PeaceAlways

    PeaceAlways Senior IL'ite

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    If you have read my previous posts, I am a 25 year old divorcee working in US. After trying for remarrying for some time and failing miserably, I am putting my frustration in to good use now. Have buried myself in books and certification exams, I am also trying to move from my current location to a new place. I am a permanent resident of US, working as a software developer. So finding a new job should not be an issue for me.

    But, what do I tell my new employer about my marital status? I know it is none of their dam business, but after a while these questions do pop up. So legally, what am I? Single? Will it be considered a fraud if I tell the new employer that I am single? I got green card from my ex-husband’s employer. I am planning to answer that I got green card through my family. Will it be considered fraud if I answer the question with that answer? Please help me..
     
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  2. renutn

    renutn Gold IL'ite

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    I believe there will be options like single/married/divorced/? . No need of hiding anything here in US; u can select divorced.
    And as per my knowledge it is nothing to do with ur GC whosoever company has applied ur GC. There is no fraud here. However if it came quite recently then you can take the help of attorney on this.
    Atleast here they treat everyone equally and concern about them
     
  3. omnam

    omnam Platinum IL'ite

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    You can very well tell the truth in one line (ie divorced) to escape any questions in future by your new employer. And of course for your peace of mind.
     
  4. justanothergirl

    justanothergirl IL Hall of Fame

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    By law an employer can never question you on ur marital status/race/age.
    Its a pretty serious thing in the US and most companies follow it to the T. Dont worry about it. Ofcourse it might come up with ur co-workers when u are in a social setting. U can just say single. U are not required to say why u are single.
     
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    SriVidya75 Platinum IL'ite

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    I think unless you are dealing with questions related to immigration, say you are single thats it. they wont dig further .....you dont have to keep explaining to everyone about your marital status..and basically no one cares here.....and those who care...not worth explaining...chill and dont take it as a issue in life.....
     
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    azalea Silver IL'ite

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    How about telling the truth? Even in this ages, honesty is the best policy. It builds your credibility. i understand that you have nothing to hide.
     
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    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi,
    u can tell HR abt truth..but tell people around tht u r single.
     
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    swathiudhay Bronze IL'ite

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    Peacealways

    1. None of the employers in US has a right to ask you your marital status. so no worries abt it.
    2. How long was your employment gap? they may ask you the reason for employment gap.
    3. What skills were you into? what skills are you updating yourself with?
    4. If you need any help in your employment search or any doubts in your employment you can contact me...i work as a Talent Acquisition specialist for an MNC...
     
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    Tugga Silver IL'ite

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    i agree with this;

    I havent worked in the US, but been there in many countries and this is what basically happens when it comes to job, migration info and self details:-

    01) Basically there is an option to mark in your personal history form (Curriculum vitae) about your marital status. You cant hide it and no need to hide this... It is like 01 - Single 02 - Married 03 - Separated 04 - Divorced. In your case if you are legally divorced then you mark as it is.

    02) The form stays with the HR unit only and only the HR officers and those sit at the interview panel know your marital status... And its not an issue at all... It has nothing to do with your career or qualities, so dont worry!!!
    No need to explain anything to your co workers/colleagues about your marital status.. Just mention that you are single.. Simple!

    03) When it comes to immigration questions... As long as you have the legal papers in hand, you dont need to worry about letting your boss know that you are no longer married to your husband. Its not cheating, it is your right to get divorce from an unwanted/unhappy marriage. Just because you have got the GC through your ex H, doesnt mean you need to put up and stay with him always. So, be logical.. and I hope your employer too understand this. Good luck!
     
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    abcdguy Silver IL'ite

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    Dear PeaceAlways,

    Its against the law to ask or judge you based off your divorce. Don't worry about that. I think what you should be doing is building a stronger resume. I am a very strong writer, and have been in Human Resources (hiring dept) for quite some time. If you would like, I can take a look at your resume. You of course can sensor all the personal information that you don't wish to share.

    Thought I would offer.


    ABCD


     

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