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  1. dhivyacc

    dhivyacc Silver IL'ite

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    I underwent domestic violence today.
    No proofs,
    He hit me with the leg
    Pulled my hair 4-5 times.
    I talked back with my valid points but whatever i have done, its not required to hit like this.
    But dont ask me if any photo /video / recording.. i dont have. he hit on my head 4-5 times which is paining but for all those i dont have proof.
    Please let me know how can I protect myself.
    any complaints to be registered for helping in my safety.
    Parents are old -they can involve but i dont want to.
    I cant go away - why should i ?
    I have 2 sons -i think they may need me.
    Is there any help line so that i can get support and notify this to get protection


    Thanks
     
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    ashima10 Platinum IL'ite

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    In which part of world are you? call the police and let them know the how you were abused.
    Even if you don't have any proof...The abuser will get a strong message and will think twice before raising his hands again.
     
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    dhivyacc Silver IL'ite

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    Am at chennai
     
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    ashima10 Platinum IL'ite

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    Call Police.
     
  5. dhivyacc

    dhivyacc Silver IL'ite

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    If I call police, what will they do..how will they act/address the issue without proofs I dont know.
    Also I dont think he will agree and say ok if the police comes and advices...
    also mine is a rented house. if police van comes, again it will be an issue right...
    in turn tortures will be more only.
     
  6. dhivyacc

    dhivyacc Silver IL'ite

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    really confused.
    Where I will go.. anyway am working and so i can extend my stay at office. leaving the house can be a best option right now. bt what will happen after that... but all know how south culture would be...cant really worth sitting 4-5 rounds talking and fixing and all. i knew there are lot of problems and they wont accept that these are the problems.

    Moreover 2 boy children are there so they need food.
    I cant tell my parents , even if they come to know - I need to console them as my dad having low BP and also after 10 years of marriage , if it is known to them they will literally feel heartbroken

    Am clueless now.
     
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    Shanvy IL Hall of Fame

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    PCVC


    Help is just a call away...but wait! Where are you calling from?

    Dhivyacc today is not the day you leave your kids alone..the news would trickle in any tine now..

    Take the numbers of police helpline and pcv numbers..

    Stay calm, plan, pack and move..never underestimate the strength of parents..no parent would say it is ok let him hit and you suffer.
     
  8. dhivyacc

    dhivyacc Silver IL'ite

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    My parents cant tolerate. That's what i should say.
    From the initial days of marriage itself there are so much problems.
    Also there are so many things where will I go, how will I manage everything etc. Then for children, it will become a separated family which is even more painful.

    From day 1 he is not having good terms either with me or my parents.

    I don't want to go away and escape leaving my rights.
    I want to live in the same place , house and win.. Give me opinions and guidance..
    What I feel is why should I leave after investing this much for my sons and parents.
    If I go away and leave, they will tell so many things they wont tell any good in-front of me even to my sons.
    My elder son even proved that they are wrong.
    I want all the applicable rights.
     
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    I called PCVC and they spoke to me and they gave another contact.
     
  10. ashima10

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    dont worry about drama....you are a victim of abuse...your husband should worry about drama.
    if once he knows that you can call police trust me he will think before raising hands on you.

    You have boys....they will eventually learn to feed themselves food but if you allow your husband to hit you like this...imagine what will feed in their kid mind.

    You said you are anyways not appreciated...forget about people they will forget. after few days .

    Gather strength and call police. Trust me its best in longer run. For the family.
     
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