Hi, I have been married for more than 15 years and we have stayed in a nuclear set up all along. Now my IL's who are having health issues , stay with us or with my BIL (they stay in the same city as us) for the last one year . My IL's stayed in home town all these years and visited us for maybe 10- 15 days at a time. So, when ever they visit we treat them as guests where we prepare food according to their liking / wishes and generally manage things in such a way that it's convenient for them. For example : They need purely south indian food for all the meal times and generally me and my kids want to try other cuisines frequently like atleast 3 -4 times a week (Mainly parathas, Pastas, chinese, etc) ... so If I need to make these items, it has to be in addition to the regular , sambar , rasam, kootu etc with no reduction in the number of items. In addition to the number of additional coffees and teas at various time... atleast 4+ per day . So it feels like I am in in the kitchen all day. Previously, I used to make the south indian meals and tiffin and also some other stuff in addition for its only for a week or fortnight and my MIL also used to help. But now the expectation still remain the same though it's for months together . I am feeling frustrated and having a cook is not an option as they have some stringent belief about brahmin cooks etc which I am finding difficult to adjust to and not easy to find such cooks where I live. Also meal times are a challenge where me and my family like to eat early because of school and kids need to go to bed by 9 . My FIL eats much later and is disappointed if we eat earlier without him and he is not willing to move up up his dinner time. So, if he has a long face because he needs to eat alone or make any comments then my DH is upset and tries to accommodate him and our usual schedule goes for a toss. Also I do like cooking and love to explore new cuisines but this daily routine of same old south indian cooking is irritating me to no end. They stayed with us for about 7 months last year and went to my BIL's place for about 3 months and now my Co sister asked me if they can come back to our place since she is traveling for about 2 weeks. So far we have had a decent relationship but I feel she is not pulling her share of work by making plans to travel during the time they are staying with them. I couldn't say no to her , anyways she wasn't asking my permission, it was more like, I have this thing to do , so Amma/ Appa will be more comfortable if they come to your place now. Also My IL's are not the kind of people who adjust to shuttling between 2 sons frequently and we also don't want to hurt them unintentionally. But it is very tough getting adjusted to this new way of life when I am used to doing things my way for so long. There is no escaping this way of life, I just have to make peace with it, so what I need is suggestions from you ladies on how to manage my life so that I don't feel frustrated all the time. BTW DH is very understanding and helpful in chores etc. but doesn't have any suggestions on managing his folks for he is a very sensitive and non confrontational personality and is affected by any off hand comments my ILs make generally. I don't have any issues with IL's but no great bond with them either. So it feels like a burden when they are staying with us for months together. Also considering my IL's health , they don't want to explore options of staying nearby but not together etc. So, it basically comes down to me adjusting my outlook so that I can lead my life peacefully without taking out my frustrations on my kids and DH. So, I seek your opinions on how to manage this transition smoothly.