Disclaimer : I don't have a moral compass designed to judge others neither am i a moral police. I am from the 70's brigade probably you did not think we would have had affairs or love marriages and were all looped into the arranged marriages with the ghoonghats..just saying.. i married the love of my life and it is 25years now and still going strong. i have been at the worst of my physical appearance, when he was handsome and i have recovered to a better looking person while he lost his hair. never did physical appearance had too much of an impact on us.we loved the person for what he/she was. Your post reminded me of this scene from this movie you can sit on any number of kuris/chairs, but the problem is when you break the chair so much that it is going to be difficult task repairing it, or is going to be useless for anyone else. part ways, leaving it intact so that if ever, you pass by you have smile looking at the good memories.. the only thing my kids have been taught, btw i have a son and daughter, that if possible, never break someone's heart. be clear, whether you really like the person before proceeding further. we are adults who can differentiate between infactuation, lust, or love. let us not confuse them. hope you find the best match..