,I'm a 27 year old women who is doing masters.In college i have fallen in love with a guy and i have proposed him we met and lived together we decided to get married after we finish our masters,end of undergrad i started noticing he has changed a lot not taking care of himself put bit weight not the person whom i met in college ,not that funny not going out to clubs or pubs like in college ,working all the time ,it made me lose interest towards him ,how can i introduce to my friends if he is not taking care of himself and not looking good ,he is not going out with friends and asking me not to go weekend trips if some guy is arranging trip bbq in the nature or pubs,in my work place met a tall good looking guy,very very good looking with clean shaved blue eyes ,when i spend time with him (just hangout-my bf used to call me every hour ) i started hating going home and meeting him So i decided to stop all these left him a note in the doorstep ,send him a sms not to disturb me again ,deleted his contact moved to a new apartment He called me many times ,i never attended his calls,His friends started calling me and saying he is in shock that he does not understand what happened why she left(He should know what happened all the time ,that restricting me hangout a Big No). A month back he followed me to metro in a dirty cloth,with his ugly face ,whining that he does not understand what happened why i left him ,he blames me that i proposed him first(He looked good then ,he was funny back then) he also blames of giving hope (As all the couples we discussed for hours together everyday about our future ,our kids and where we go-but all this is over ,he does not get it that it is over). I just told him not to follow me or i call the police ,and left that place. Day before yesterday i met our common friend she said as he(ex) drinking too much and couldn't move on he has lost his masters course spot and deporting back to India.She is saying its all because of me ,calling me names.Blaming me for proposing him first -he could have said no and moved on .why blaming me ,why do people judge others so fast.. Worst part is she said at least you could have felt sorry why i should feel sorry for him drinking he is not brave enough to face the world why i should be responsible. Here people around me for women ,women is the first enemy-judging me for past relationship is bad my own sister back in india stopped talking with me ,she is saying i have cheated him ,which is not we met for couple of years and once i met a guy who keeps me happy and very attractive and obviously financially strong) my ex was doing masters in neurosurgery (Obviously he could earn more but it will take another couple of years of him not being around me working for days and spending less time with me ).His mother some how got me in the landline phone where i work ,started crying abusing me saying i spoiled his life ,he started preparing for his masters from school days now all went in vain because of me ,but i try to explain that things happened i do not love him anymore and i have left him in a decent way not having 2 affairs at a time ,once i started having relationship with new bf i left my ex but she is too old to understand that still sticking to her old traditional beliefs which i do not understand or care. People are spoiled with movies ,how come dressing dirty with sad face will bring a person back to his life ? He followed me other day to metro ,another day in apartment lift (thank god my bf was there and warned him and pushed him out in the next floor ) if he really wanted me back he should have went to gym ,dressed properly and approach and say i have changed ,but guys got badly influenced by cinema. Even now he is not going to be in the street ,if he goes back he can try writing PG exam and try to get a PG. Or work as a MBBS doctor in india ,run clinics make some living ,why people around him and some people treat me like i have killed him.My biggest question is if he cant manage me(which is not a big thing) how come he will be successful in life ? So for guys everything is girls ? He should stick to his masters and moved on ,he acted like whole world ended. What you people think let me know,should i feel sorry ? or guilty ? I don't feel either ,but people whom we know in common keep saying this so wanted to ask to a anonymous community ,you people don't know us in personal so cant take sides.