Pinky - You’ve got to make yourself your first priority. Your health is more important than other things. Go to your mom’s place where you can relax for the entire month. Don’t bother about DH right now. Let him find a hostel for a month or two. You have to realize that you can’t control your adult DH. He isn’t a puppet. He’s going to continue talking to his mom/dad and they are going to continue to involve in his life. You nagging him and running him down will only drive him away further. Be smart and tactful. Recover, find a house, move in without much pomp and show. If DH wants to invite parents right then your response should be that you are yet to recover fully and that you want to be able to take care of them properly when they are in your house. You can have a proper Pooja at a later auspicious date and they can come. In the ensuing months, don’t remark about him talking to his dad, his dad controlling money etc. You’ve already won by moving out. You make sure you are doing a good job of managing your spendings effectively and make life easier for both of you. When the parents are constantly calling and interfering and you aren’t he will automatically know the adult thing to do. It may not happen in a day but it will. If you try to control every aspect of his interaction, you will just drive a wedge between you. Is your situation ideal? No. Can you make it tolerable? Yes. By having some tact. I used to run my mouth all the time until I figured out how to be politically correct and get my work done. Your DH will know the difference when you are living together and will figure out what freedom is like. Give him time, he’s just getting out of being treated like a child.