Nanny or daycare

Bumping this up

 

Hi ATB,

My vote always go to daycare. My daughter is 3 year old and she goes to full time daycare . I know you may feel little bad for some days or week initially then you will be very happy after seeing all positive changes. till date i have changed my daugter's daycare 3 times due to location change but every time she took some time for adjustment but when she got adjusted always learned some thing good. Since you are planning for daycare I'll suggest you to start slowly -

Start for few hours before going for full time (i started with 4 hours )
Adjustment time differ for each kid...from few days to few weeks. My DD took around 1 mnth. If your son is still crying please do not take him out (I know it is difficult) but if you will do you will never be able to leave him in school.

Also since your kid is 2+, he need more kids to play some thing and more activities other than feeding food.

 

Check with the daycare if they have a pick up and drop facility. A few day cares here provide this option on additional charge. If that's the case nanny can take your DS to and fro the bus/van stop. You can ask nanny to teach him rhymes and other things in your mother tongue too.

 

Hi,
This is kind of off topic.But for last two weeks whenever I hear the word 'baby sitter' I get frightened.I am not sure where are you living in US. Have you heard about kinjal Patel incident from Connecticut .If not google it it was a recent incident 2weeks before where a toddler died because of an Indian baby sitter.I am not trying to scare you but in my opinion daycare is better option.But at first atleast for 1 month transition would be difficult.So choose best for you and your kid.

 

Daycare the whole day is the best option for that age, dear, given your options. They have a very structured programme and record your child's progress, chatting out goals too. Plus this is the time your child will absorb information like a sponge. A good day care can provide that stimulation. Please don't hesitate. Grab the place you are being offered.

 

@ AllThings Baby,

I understand Your Concern, But I Do Vote For Daycare.

Daycare are Professional and They not Only Concentrate on Food, They also have some Playtime and Concerntrate on Extra Curricular Activity (i.e overall Development). Plus Your Kid will have Other Friends to interact With.. Which will help him to Socialise.. I know they are some Cons (Kids May Get Sick) But that Will Build Immunity As well

Just to Keep a Note, You do Some Good HomeWork (Visit the School/Daycare, Talk to teachers) before you Enroll

 

OP, welcome to Indusladies!

I am working mom of a two year old. Mine goes to full time daycare. I have considered nanny vs daycare option and I decided daycare is best for my family situation.

There are going to be ups and downs in both cases. I am going to point out a few so that you can make an informed decision about the problems or success with daycare. Mind you, mine goes to a home daycare, which basically means that the daycare provider has just 5 kids (including mine) to care for.

I will start with downside:

1. There is going to be initial adjustment period where you can expect big fat tears which may or may not last all day. Each kid is different, so you need to be prepared.
2. The individual attention which he has right now will not be there. I mean, you say she makes sure he has lunch/snack/nap etc right? The daycare provider will try her best but if he keeps resisting, she will not push as she has other children to care for too.
3. Kids tend to fall sick a little too often when in daycare. i.e since the kids play together, colds and coughs would become a major issue for you. They are more prone to small scratches, bumps etc (I mean to say, while the daycare provider will do everything in her power to keep the children safe, her attention is divided).
4. Kids usually get really tired by playing all day long at the daycare with maybe an hour of nap in between. What happens is, by 7:30 they are ready to go to bed. You will have very little time to spend with him.

Now to the good parts:

1. He will get to spend quality time with kids of his age.
2. His day is more structured, organized and his over all development can be seen from week 1 itself. Age appropriate activities, crafts, rhymes etc become a beautiful part of their lives.
3. They tend to slowly get independent, more social, more communicative and more sharing.
4. It is usually believed that kids sleep better when they are tired and trust me, with all the play they do sleep better (mine is an exception).

Hope this helps.