My 2.5 yrs old is energy bomb and draining me out with her rude behaviour and manners. I stay at home with her and she has just started daycare few days/week for same reasons. She loves her dad and follows him but disrespects me completely. My H scolds her when she hits me or shouts at me. Her acts and behaviour kills me, stresses me all the time. Just an example, lets take bath...no, somehow I lure into bath, then won't come out. Lets go out for some urgent task, help mamma, NO.. She spreads play cards on floor, and If I pick back, she screams. Can you please pick those?...NO. She is butt naked on cold floor, lets put on pants, you will get sick... NO. lets change clothes to go out..no. Plz do not put this in mouth, you will hurt yourself, NO For everything there is a big 'no'. Then there is 1 hr of chasing, drama and then fighting. Many times its like emergency like to pick my H in rush, as I tell her calmly we need to go right now as daddy got hurt, he is standing in cold etc etc but she does not understand ofcourse. I tried talking positively to her, by keeping my head on myself. like please, I love you can i have this or that ...But she is 2.5 yrs old only. Those philosophy in books does not work on her. I tried 1-2-3 methods. I force her, slap her ( sorry but that I have to do ) when she just does not listen and its emergency, that only works. Its like she is my enemy now and how will it change ? I have seen kids of her age. Example they outside and want to play desparately or playing. Mommy says no, we need to get back home, time for bath etc. If not first time, they definitely go back 2nd time. At max, they say I do not want to go but play but still they go. My kid, If I refuse anything to her in front of others, take it to her ego and starts screaming right there. I take her to library and they have ipads, she will say mommy I want to go there, okay we go there and then she sits and I try to touch ipad just to open a nice appropriate game that she might be able to play, she tells me mommy you go... what? She does not need me now. If I try to get up like looking at books even close by, no mommy..do not go One thing I need to learn is not to complain to my H in front of her but me and H do not spend a minute alone. Only for a movie at night that too exhausted to talk. Girls, please suggest how to discipline this girl.