My Story Of Infertility

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  1. Elsa

    Elsa Gold IL'ite

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    Hello everyone,

    I am a 33 yr old female. After over a year of ttc (I started at 30) naturally, I had consulted an ob/gyn just to make sure nothing is wrong with me. All along the ttc journey, I very well knew that my partner had ED and PME issues. We have tried everything possible, to get pregnant naturally. My ob/gyn told me that I am perfectly alright and that in my case, my partner could be having issues. He ordered a semen analysis for my husband. We were devastated when the doctor ran us through his SA results, my husband's sperm count and motility is lower than what is needed to make a baby. We were told that we may get pregnant by chance, but it is highly unlikely that it may happen anytime soon. The doctor reffered us to an infertility specialist.

    At the infertility clinic, I had to take countless blood tests and ultrasound tests, HSG test. The doctor suggested that we should go for an IUI. I had IUI done with a hcg shot, with a 4 mill post-wash sperm sample, and 2 weeks later, i had to go in for a blood test. With all the cramping and fatigue, I was very sure that I would get pregnant, the first time. But, the test turned out to be negative. I am a mess now. I deactivated my FB account. Every other friend of mine seems to be pregnant or ready to push. I have no answer to those who advice me to plan for a baby as I am not getting any younger. I very well know that with each passing month, my chances of getting pregnant will go down. But I have tried my best.

    At 33, at best, if things continue to go this way, I can probably have one kid, by the time I hit menopuse. I had always dreamt of having 2 kids.

    I have been through every post on IUI in this forum, I am not quite sure now if I have to go for another IUI or go for IVF without wasting any time. I am clueless. I appreciate any advice in this regard. Thank you.
     
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    Since you are still young in the infertility world they would have suggested starting with IUI. You can try a couple more rounds of IUI, but I would move to the next step if it doesn't work. If your husband's sperm report is not optimal the best option may be to move to IVF+ICSI or PICSI if your clinic offers that and if you can afford it. And if you are not 100% satisfied with your current clinic don't hesitate to get second opinions. If you are in the US, the Resolve infertility forum is an invaluable resource.
     
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    Hello !

    I can totally understand what ur going through at the moment.
    But let me tell u , we all have been there.. It takes a lot of patience & preseverance to get ur baby when there r obstacles in ur path.
    Ur husband n u should work as a team and fight this problem. Stop all the blame games and thinking about negatives.
    U should b thankful to God that u have enough sperm that allows u to atleast try iui. There r couple who do not even have that privilege. B happy n think positive.
    33 is not a big deal these days ..
    IUI should b atleast attempted for 6 cycles before u shift for a much aggressive IVF.
    The success rate of IUI goes on increasing as u do back to back cycles. Don't let just 1 failure take away ur faith .
    I conceived in my 3 rd attempt.
    I know it's depressing facing a negative cycle , but u got to get up and fight this.
    I hope u make urself strong and understand that infertility struggle & journey is tough but not impossible ..
    All the best ..
    Hope hear positive news very soon :)
     
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    Thanks for taking time to write a reply to my post.

    I guess, age is not on my side at this point. If I were 30 or in my late twenties, I wouldn't have worried about it so much. With every passing month, I am losing hopes of holding a child of our own, in my arms. I havent been able to concentrate on my career because of this problem. I haven't been applying for job positions which require me to travel more than 50 miles a day. I am afraid, in the end, in 4-5 years from now, I will not have a good career nor a baby. I see couples living 100's of miles apart from each other, who meet on weekends, or every alternate weekends, making pregnancy announcements. I sometimes feel, why me!

    I spoke to my doctor again, and they suggested laproscopy/hysteroscopy ( to rule out endometriosis) + femara and/or injectables this cycle ( not quite sure what that means). He even asked me to consider IVF, as it has higher success rates over IUI. I am very confused now. I am unable to make a decision.

    I would like to know if any one in this forum who has a similar issue as mine ( partner's sperm count and motility issues) has conceived through IUI only. If yes, how many cycles? If not, after how many cycles did you have to go for IVF? Also, does laproscopy/hysteroscopy help with any other issues?

    Thanks in advance.
     
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    My clinic only advises IUI if the sperm report is normal. If there are issues with motility the chances of success are less. You have to decide how much time you want to devote to IUI. If I were in your shoes and if you have the finances I would move to IVF+ICSI.
    Getting your tests done will be helpful in making sure that your uterus is normal.
     
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    Try few Iui, actually Iui they suggested means motility is not that bad, only one is needed for fertilization, out of those millions transferred.
    There could be so many reasons for not fertilizing . Don't stress yourself .

    Few things about IVF,

    In IVF when measuring the progesterone etc hormones, almost every other day blood test Will be done, And injections for making eggs get mature and once embryos transfer progesterone injections. In India nurse gives injection I believe, but in USA we have to do it ourselves.

    Also vaginal scanning for measuring egg size to increase or decrease medicine dosage
    And egg retrieval and then transfer .

    Finally waiting for results, I almost felt like getting heart attack, after giving blood test and waiting for blood test resultsphine call. that much tension I had on that day, and result was negative finally.
     
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    I will talk to my doctor once again and make a decision.

    I hope you ladies get to see positive results soon! Good luck
     
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    hi elsa, firstly very sorry for your present situation but this is life and you got to live with it.

    what i suggest is something completely different.
    there are two options you can go for
    first is surrogacy and secondly adoption. Indian govt is introducing a new surrogacy bill, so if you want to try by surrogacy you need to talk to your doctor fast.

    i read in your post that you wish to have two kids. i won't give you false hopes but IVF, there may be chances of you having twins. eg Farah khan has three kids went IVF.
     
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    Thanks for writing here. I dont mean to be rude but, at the moment, I am not quite looking forward to surrogacy or adoption. Also just because someone had three kids through IVF, I dont intend to not take the IVF route. Adopting a child is a noble act, but to be frank, I prefer trying a few more years before giving up.
     
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    No offense to you, but surrogacy and adoption usually come later after one has exhausted other options. Why would a woman not try IVF and go straight to surrogacy if she is capable of carrying a pregnancy? A woman can have twins even from natural conception. Most responsible doctors will only transfer 1-2 embryos during IVF. And the same thing can happen if a surrogate is carrying the embryos, since the intended parents will have to create the embryos using IVF.
    Please do not say these things to women dealing with infertility. The OP asked specific questions about specific medical issues. She is probably well aware of options like surrogacy and adoption.
     
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