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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by niyathi123, Jan 19, 2012.

  1. niyathi123

    niyathi123 Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi,

    This might sound funny to majority of you ladies, but its killing me inside. my questions to ladies who have maids, cook at home

    - does your hubby enter kitchen while your maid is at the stove or cutting . Mine does and even though i offer to get him what he wants still he makes it a point to enter kitchen while she is there. Since our kitchen is medium sized i feel its not required for him to run into kitchen.
     
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    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi Niyathi,
    How old is your maid? i would suggest tht u keep an old lady for work
     
  3. niyathi123

    niyathi123 Bronze IL'ite

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    Must be within 30 i guess
     
  4. riyagan

    riyagan Gold IL'ite

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    quite an issue.. as a matter of fact you should know better about ur hubby... i dont think one wud take the freedom to comment about ur hubby just based on a short note given by u.. u hav history of such incidents to other women in his office or outside the house? if u dont hav any u can jst ignore this right nw.. but keep a watch.. if its an confident yes..i dont know how to deal with it? u can ask him directly. may be..not sure
     
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    deepa10 Gold IL'ite

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    Hi niyathi..

    it might not be an issue, but since you have already started thinking about it, its better to stop this.
    one way is to tell him that maid may not feel comfortable if he goes inside kitchen.. and she has told you so indirectly.. so ask him to get things thru you.. though this is not the truth, you can say this if u dont want to ask him directly...

    But if I were you, I would ask my husband directly whether he is going inside to see the maid :hide: Also I shall tell him that it makes me feel uncomfortable, so he can better stop going inside the kitchen when she is in.
    However; this depends on how you take it up to your husband..!

    My view, better to stop this before you develop some illusions about this,...
     
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    niyathi123 Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi Deepa,

    Didnt understand when you said "My view, better to stop this before you develop some illusions about this,..." did you mean that i need to stop thinking in the wrong way ?
     
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    agree with deepa. talk it out to him ; in a funny or serious note whatever appeals to him with a clear mind.

    niyathi , what she meant was , if you just watch and keep quiet , it could develop some wrong ideas in your mind , which may lead to doubts.

    so go ahead ; bring this thought which disturbs you to your husbands notice ; without picking up a fight.

    maybe he's just getting a drink. :)
     
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    IndianFunTube New IL'ite

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    Just for your Information. Some of these maids in their 20's double up as hookers to earn extra income. So women who employ them do have something to worry about! As far as your husband is concerned, does he only enter the kitchen when the maid is around? Your concerns are fine but don't act upon them unless you're sure something is wrong. Keep a vigil!
     
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    You must be knowing well abt your DH nature on other women. I feel better not to ask him, since if he don't feel the way you do, he may start from the moment you ask him. To avoid unnecessary things, better have your maid in the absence of your husband - when he's not at home.
    If this is unavoidable, let your husband know that she's is not comfortable when he visits the kitchen...On the funny note, tell him she got a boxer/karate husband...lol...
     
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    Dear,
    I go by deepa10' advice. You can do it as he has advised.
     

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