My Life Journey With My Special Kid!

Now that’s something that you need to work on. You do need help when he can watch the kid. Have you tried just letting him know that something is over and try to get out to go buy? Are you in India? If so, just getting out to go buy some essentials that got over and then slowly increasing the time to 20-30 mins will help you.

You too need a hobby. Just like your DH is exploring his passion, you need something for yourself which rewards in other ways other than monetarily. You should start slowly and build it up. Initially you will see resistance but over time he will come to accept it as a part of your daily routine. If he pushes back, instead of making it about him having outlets and you not having outlets make it about autism. You needing to do something other than special needs therapy to keep going. Unemotional conversations about these things will help.

I hope you find an outlet. You definitely need one.

 

Caregiver burnout is so real!
@Shanvy - Even with the DH not around, it is very different I think to have someone who is completely on board with what you are doing and providing emotional support vs the opposite. I think @Mathima has a hubby in town but isn't getting the right kind of support from him. Maybe we should brainstorm some steps for her to get him involved a little. It will help her.

 

@Mathima - Have you tried getting him involved with the baby while you deal with your son? You can't do it all, you will get too overwhelmed. Remember this is for the long haul, a marathon not a sprint.

Have you seen a special needs counselor? Is one available to parents in your area? I have, although my DH refused because he thought he doesn't need one. You probably need someone to help you find some coping strategies for the long run. Even one/two sessions can help a lot.

Is your spouse in denial about your child's diagnosis? Does he make statements like - he's ok, kids develop at different paces, you are making a mountain out of a molehill etc? If he is, then he probably is trying to keep himself too busy rather than deal with the reality at home. I have no ideas on how to fix that. Maybe @Shanvy can give you some pointers there. We did have this situation before the diagnosis but afterward, everyone got onboard quickly.

Are there moms groups in your area? That's the best thing that happened to me - joined a local moms group for moms with kids on the spectrum. They are active on FB but I regularly went for meetups and made some amazing friends in the process. I didn't have anyone to watch my son during these meetups but I have one person who can manage my son. She helped me by babysitting for me once a month.

Do YOU get any breaks at all? Does your child go to school/therapy? Do you have someone to help watch the baby while your son is in therapy so you can do something like cook? Are you living alone or with parents?

Remember, we are with you. Even though we can't meet face to face, you do have some people who get it. Hugs and hang in there.