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My House Becoming Transit Centre

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by Vedhavalli, Apr 24, 2017.

  1. armummy

    armummy Platinum IL'ite

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    I too think you are putting too much thought why she did not invite your brother to her home.

    Many reasons . Could be that husband does not approve , her In laws do not. approve, her house may be very messy , she may not have disclosed her visiting you and going sightseeing with you --- you know jealous husbands don't want you to have fun...

    Or may be you are thinking for getting some small package you now have signed up for a lot of your time.... Do what you can do and be open and say your husband cannot pick a bad drop her ...if she is coming on professional visit , cabs to airport are refunded.

    You should definitely not spend your money for her to return later .....either get Indian money first or have her pay for gifts from her allowance money given by companies. Don't go overboard and repent later
     
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  2. Elsa

    Elsa Gold IL'ite

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    @Vedhavalli or is it possible that she is bringing your stuff without her family's knowledge??
     
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    @Rihana , thank you. I frankly examine myself and would probably be the kind of friend OP would be complaining about here. We take a lot of favors from our friends and I don't really know if we do enough back for them... because the kind of favors we need and are able to give are completely different. So I just like to think that it all balances out somewhere out there.

    And I reiterate, standards for courtesies are so different, so I wouldn't just conclude someone as lacking in courtesy because they don't behave the way I'd like them to behave. When our friends come home, my dad would just nod hello and go back inside to his computer to read the India news papers, while my FIL thinks he needs to hang around while people are here. I don't see wrong with both! This might not be a good example for this situation, but just something that immediately comes to my mind.
     
  4. Rihana

    Rihana IL Hall of Fame

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    ^^^^ If my brother had to pick up a package and the lady met him 500 metres from their house, and I wasn't told any reason for that, I would not host the person. I am like that vonly.
     
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    Hmmm... I tend to be the kind who doesn't think much about it and if I did, just that she was just incapacitated at that time and as long as the work was done, no big deal.

    And I hope you don't think that I am saying you're wrong, because I really don't!!!
     
  6. Rihana

    Rihana IL Hall of Fame

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    Why would I think that : ) I am thinking of hosting you and making mushroom biryani in IP and serving. : )

    OP, here's a picture of the one I made a few weeks ago after getting inspiration from this thread:

    mushroomb.JPG
     
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    paru123 Silver IL'ite

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    Could be that the friend has a very low profile life/or busy life in India,but when it comes to seeing places in us, she wants to make the most of it through op. Anyways no point in being a grand host to such people who seek to get favours done from you. These type friends will easily forget the favours. But before she leaves you need to find out why she didn't give her address and post it here
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Yes. I feel the same
     
  9. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    I'm thinking too much , may be.
    What i felt bad about was she was giving me calls in odd hours, planning up for her. And stuff. There are something whichlike tone of voice when she hesitated. Which I can't convey
    May be her husband doesn't like it. Favours had to be on both sides. I understood people stay in limits when it comes thier turn.
    My bro asked me, what kind of friend is yours? When you're hosting her.
    My point is will she do the same thing will she make her stay in her house , I think it's No.
     
  10. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    Nope..she has a good job no low profile both her office and home just 3 km apart. My bro went on a weekend when I confirmed she is free.
     

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