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My House Becoming Transit Centre

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by Vedhavalli, Apr 24, 2017.

  1. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    Hey !
    Recipe is
    1. One pkt mushroom
    2. One to 1.5 cup basmati rice
    3. Whole garam masala
    4. Mint and cilantro paste 1 tablespoon
    5. Ginger garlic paste 2 tsp
    6. Green chilli - 3
    7. Tomatoes - 2
    8. Onions -1 big
    Chop onions n tomatoes - grind it coarsely
    Take a small cooker or handi
    Pour oil add whole garam masala, then add green chilli and onion tomato paste. Fry for 4 min. Then add mint cilantro paste, fry till oil ooze.
    Then add mushroom fry till all water evaporates. Then add req. water bring to boil. Add basmati rice. If in cooker 1 whistle. If in handi till the rice gets cooked.
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    I SEcond this
     
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    sindmani Platinum IL'ite

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    U set limits in helpinng her. Don't go overboard to help her. Then ur expectations will be minimum from her. So things will fall in line
     
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    Thanks !

     
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  5. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    I too want set limits...but she sends me the itenary.. my point is no basic courtesy to give home address..but she wants me to do this that. Pick drop shopping n siteseeing..stay at my home. I was so enthusiastic about her visit now feels cheated
     
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    How many days is she staying
     
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    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    They are sending me the agenda. How to set limits? If I say no, they taunt me n give long face. They somehow make me feel guilty and obligated to do service
     
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    They are not making you feel guilty , your guilt is self induced. Email her saying it's great she can spend time with you. Then tell her that your husband has some deadlines at work and cannot pick her up and that you recommend taking Uber since it will be cheaper than taking a yellow cab. Also tell her you had some big credit card purchases and you maxed your limit , so her getting cash at the airport would work best. How difficult is that ?

     
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  9. Sofiaj

    Sofiaj Senior IL'ite

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    I think if your friend doesn't want to have a guy over at home for some reason she could have told you to give the address so she could go and personally pick it up. ( It's your friends younger brother and I don't see what's wrong to have him over at house and get the parcel) That would have been a very nice gesture and it would have made everyone feel good. If not for others, at least for you since she's getting such a hospitality from you in return.

    If you want to make up for the incident, limit your hospitality and do what would make you feel good rather going extra miles to make her feel comfortable. I would even say that you must confront her upon her actions. That's the best medicine for people who think they're smart with their action and getaway as if nothing happened.

    P.S I told this based on my personal incident happened recently with my cousin recently in same situation.
     
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    This is a uniquely Indian problem.

    Too much obligation, too much duty, not enough "me, me, me!"
     
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