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My House Becoming Transit Centre

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by Vedhavalli, Apr 24, 2017.

  1. Elsa

    Elsa Gold IL'ite

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    Or even better, ask them to book a rental car when they ask you for a ride from the airport. And lie to them that you are not in town. If you do this for a couple of times, they will get the message.

    On a different note, this reminds me of a couple who used to live next door. They used to request (which sounded more like an order) my DH to drop them off at the airport and pick them up when they return. And can you believe they asked us this, when they booked tickets from an airprt which is atleast 250 miles from our place! So, there are many shameless people in the world who do not hesitate before asking favors!
     
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  2. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    Hi Ladies,
    New incident to share, one my friend is coming from India on professional work.
    She could stay for 2 days rest in hotel.
    The issue is weekend have to pick n do siteseeing and shopping. Next day she takes off.
    Plus I have bug my husband to take half day off to drop her.
    She herself asked me, if you need anything from India let me know, I can bring. So my bro bought something for me. I asked her address so that my bro can deliver.
    She said she can come to the road to pick. Did not give the address.
    I felt bad, somehow my bro gave her the parcel to her.
    Now my bro feels, what kind of friend is yours? Who can't tell address... But she wants you to do siteseeing and shopping, be guest at home then drop her to airport?
    I couldn't reply him. Felt low.
    I asked the address 2 times .

    The reason could be she didn't want a guy come her home, mind she has 2 kids who go to school. Plus he is my younger brother, professional...
    My mom said had it been us, we would invited give tea coffee etc.
    I had no reply for mom too.
    What should I do?

    I'm thinking to do is
    1. Not to pick her from far away stay place, instead as her to take Uber to my home.
    2. Have to use my credit card, later she would put in my Indian account. What for that. Not to use my card
    3. Already bought few electronic things for her.
    I'm just depressed, how people exist...I was so enthusiastic about her visit. Now all drained...

    Don't I really know who is who?
    PS: I had helped her professionally and personally
     
    Last edited: Jul 6, 2017
  3. Sandycandy

    Sandycandy IL Hall of Fame

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    Someone that can travel for professional work can definitely take UBER or LYFT to the airport . Why should your husband take off from work for this ?Ask her to get cash, you can avoid the hassle of having to ask her to return money .
    Don't expect too much from people , everyone is different and their concept of right and wrong and expressing gratitude will differ.
    Don't go out of your way to be the good host at the cost of causing inconvenience to you and family and then feel bitter about it.
    People will take advantage of your generosity only if you let them. Draw boundaries and don't hesitate to say no !



     
  4. Sandycandy

    Sandycandy IL Hall of Fame

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    On a side note, what is your recipe for mushroom biryani?
     
  5. Sunshine04

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    Like any Biriyani.use mushrooms and capsicum
     
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    Thanks @Sunshine04 ! Will be sure to try it !
     
  7. paru123

    paru123 Silver IL'ite

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    She might have not wanted to trouble your brother with the travel to her place and so didn't give her address.

    There are actually many selfish people like this friend who feel others are always available for them. But when it comes to them, convenience, money, time, everything matters.

    Slowly with time and experience you will u understand people.
     
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    My husbands colleague also did the same thing when my dad went to give our stuff.
    The reason was his home was too inside with lots of turns.so he didn't want to trouble my dad an old man.
     
  9. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    This case, she didn't want to trouble my bro. Nor my bro is old or don't know any place. I find hard, it was sharp answer no I would come out. But same friend wants me to host..lovey dovey....
    I can't take it easy.
     
  10. Vedhavalli

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    Yes have to learn a lot it seems.
    Previously I believed only relatives behaves like this now seems all are same.
    For them it's always about convenience, when it comes to us, we have to go extra mile doing favours.
     

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