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My House Becoming Transit Centre

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by Vedhavalli, Apr 24, 2017.

  1. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    OP....I have a trip coming up...can i please stay with you. for a month? Please :)

    Sorry, not to make light of the situation :) just to lighten your mood :)
     
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    Elsa Gold IL'ite

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    Disclaimer : no offence meant to the people that OP is talking about. Just quoting an experience of mine.

    @DDream I had to deal with DH’s friends, a married couple, (he doesnt consider them friends, but they do as my DH never says NO to them or anyone ). Whenever they planned a weekend trip and if they do not have any friends or acquaintances in that city and if they knew that we had some friends or family or relatives in that city, this couple would shamelessly pester us to talk to our friends and relatives and ask them if they are ok with having this couple over at their place for a day or two. And sometimes, they wanted us to join them on their weekend trips so that they could tag along with us to our relatives/friends home. And they would sometimes shamelessly split the food costs equally too even though they had parents visiting and a kid and we were just two of us.

    When our sole purpose of visiting a place is sightseeing, DH and I never bother any of our friends or relatives in that city and just book a hotel room, eat outside and do not make any checkins on FB or post pictures on any social media. Just because we do not want our frends or relatives know that we were in that city. But this couple used to be after our life to convince us why we waste so much money on hotels and why not stay at someone’s house.

    So, the point is, there are people who want to save money, but still want to travel places and trouble others.
     
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  3. Amica

    Amica IL Hall of Fame

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    You certainly are a people magnet! :)
    If your DH has trouble saying no to his friends, you could volunteer to be the "bad guy." Tell him to simply say his wife keeps the social calendar and hand the phone over to you. Then you can be the one to say "no" firmly without offering reasons or excuses.

    Good luck, @Vedhavalli! :thumbsup:
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  4. Amica

    Amica IL Hall of Fame

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    Two words: Mushroom biryani. :D
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    Three words: Location, Location, Location. : )
     
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    Dishaa Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Op,

    I discussed ur situation to my Dh he suggested these things.

    1. Directly tell "NO" to them, no need to give any kind of excuses its ur house why to give excuses and suggest them some hotels.
    2. For obtaining visa (tourist / work / business) hotel confirmation is a mandatory document, so these guests have definitely done the hotel bookings and there after they have cancelled it (after obtaining visa).
    3. When ever any family outing is there take them to an expensive hotel (as u guys are aware of that location) and once ur eat ur food move out (let the guests pay the bill) or tell the waiter for separate bills.
    These guests are just trying to save their money so using ur house as guest house / hotel, once they know they have to shell out money these visits will stop.

    Note from myself and my Dh: In case if u can't do any of the above sited ideas (because of ur kind nature), please share ur address even we will be visiting your house to get a five star treatment from ur family that too free of cost.

    Take care.....
     
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    You can stop them by telling you are sick.small kid will get infection.just call them one day before their arrival.
     
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    These are great ideas but can the OP really do these?
     

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