My Feelings

Viji Ma,
You are very simple and your simplicity is why you get much appreciation here.

Also you are ajatashatru (one who has no enemies). It is a rare quality to have. According to mythology, Even Lord Krishna had some people gunning for him inspite of his affable nature. So you are blessed to have a quality that is difficult to achieve.

 

Dear Vijiakka,

There isn't anyone who can claim that they are perfect. We all have our own shortcomings. Particularly, perfection is a moving target like Abhimanyu's target. At your age, accept things as is. Whenever you are able to do it, you can set it up the way you like. Don't worry about the impression others would have about your preparation. What matters is your loving hospitality.

Viswa

 

Vijima, there was a time when I was extremely finicky about my house, kitchen, cooking etc. Everything had to be just so. Over the past decade or so, things have gone out of my control and initially I used to feel miserable. There are days when I think I am living in a hotel where everything gets taken care of, everything runs on autopilot but is far from perfection. I often worry 'what impression people would have of me' if they see such a messy home. Now I have just let things be. No point getting upset over things which we can't control. The sooner we accept the idea the better. Chhod do and just be happy.

 

Putting away things to keep the kitchen counter clean, can work against you more often than not. Sometimes I end up looking for things that I had put away to be out of sight.
I want the kitchen vessels to get stacked like Navrathri-Golu and take up as minimal space as they can, and be in sight all the time.

And then there is the problem of picking things off the floors before the kaam-wali comes, so that she won't think we are living in a mess, and she will be able to sweep and wet wipe the floors. Sometimes I think I work more because she comes, and if she doesn't come, I am really working more.

Counter top appliances -- like mixie, grinder, coffee maker, microwave oven etc. also take up space. And these are used everyday, and we cannot play hide-and-seek with them every day.

By the way, I have a lower-back support belt that I wear on some days while doing house work, or walking on treadmill. It looks like this:

It has velcro (hook/loop) belt to connect in the front. It is available in Amazondotin for Rs.410. There are other back support belts. These are usually sold in pharmacies. Very useful when traveling in airplanes and also sitting in the same place for a long time -- like when traveling in train, car, or just working on the computer. It can be worn over the underskirt, and will not be visible. It can go through airport x-ray (most belts have plastic loops) also.

Although I can post you this as a gift for a forum member in Rihana's other post, I will post it here.

Best wishes for a healthy and prosperous new year.

 

Dear Viji ma

You are an inspiration. Your pure heart and desire to improve all the time is what I am looking up to.
Happy happy new year Viji ma.

Love,
Vani

 

Hi vijima
The appreciation is truly from all il members. Your the inspiration for all ma.. Don't worry viji ma.. U deserve it.. Love u ma..

sharmi