It is also based on personality for some like me and husband who take the work little too seriously and take a lot responsibility . While we get recognition for all the hard work but as a result more critical work gets assigned to us which again takes more time .It is very difficult to switch off work . I get totally consumed when we have an issue at work to resolve and don’t care how many hours go through sometime without food and sleep . In those times my husband takes over house work. Same is the case with my husband. This is not a good practice and we try very hard to break this and delegate more but it is constant struggle to not just slip into this pattern again and again. but we cannot help as it is our personality and we cannot take work easy. I have a note to remind me every day that I need to delegate more and consciously let things slide. it is so easy to just do it myself instead of delegating. this also makes us exhausted and we just crave a simple no stress evening ... some times I just don’t want anyone to talk to me. Just probe your husband why is that he is doing long hours and is there any way he can cut or delegate to others. start by asking him to come home by 7 and do the rest of his work from home. Transfer some outside work to him like groceries etc find his favorite topics and talk to him on those. For me even though I don’t like anyone to talk to me after a hectic day if work , I am always ready to discuss politics ... so find what is that topic / activity for your husband which will make it engaging for him stay home instead of spending time with friends. By looking at your schedule I don’t think you need to change much but you can cut down on trips to stores and get your vitamin levels checked. what you are craving is some adult talking I believe and some meaningful hobby.