I take lead from another thread where the OP was not very comfortable with her mother and am grabbing this as an option to vent about my mother! Yes my mother! Most of you talk a lot about MILs .Well I never needed one. When I was unmarried I used to think that I'll for sure get a great MIL ,which unfortunately did not happen. My mother is lady with a good heart but she has got an extremely bad temper. Ill temperedness , overexcitement and hyper reactions to situations are the hallmarks of her nature. Over the years I have learnt to deal with her .Whenever(frequently) she goes out of control,I start to control myself,my temper and reaction and the situation diffuses. However since I am venting about her I talk more than that! To command ,dominate and control others is her nature. Her intent to interfere in my married life was very evident but my cold response on that ,plus absolutely no feedbacks about my in laws to her dampened her plans. But she would unnecessary poke her nose into our business discussions. She does not have a vague clue about my work. Imagine you are tense about a particular business situation and she comes talks or suggests about something(usually filmy or dramatic) which would irritate you to your wits end,but still you have to control yourself . She looks after my kids when I am away for work for which I am immensely thankful to her! But as soon I'll put my single step in the house she 'll start complaining..he did this,he did that, he bit me so hard that I was about to faint, he took one hour to sleep,he exhausted me.Sometimes she really shouts at my naughty child but I choose to ignore it as children can really get on nerves sometimes. Overreactions..hmmm..to highlight this I'll just quote one example.One day my one year old dozed off in her lap as he didn't sleep well last night. She called me up at work ,sobbing and crying that something has happened to my son. I called up my husband and we both drove like crazy to the house and as soon as we reached we saw that nothing was wrong.The kid just wanted to sleep.But she insisted that we get scans and tests done on the child. We had to fulfil her wish.All the results were normal but the child had to suffer a lot of examinations and tests which many adults are not comfortable with. She is very proud of her cooking,too an extent that she does not like anybody else's,even employees who are professional cooks. I cook well too but when I cook for her ,she will not eat and fish for something from the refrigerator which is very humiliating. All the maids also get angry and leave because of her pestering . Ha ..at times she'll get so mad at my father ,me or my sibling that she would shout abuse at us and even wish us death. My father is a good man ,entirely dominated by her and attributes her behavior to over pampering by her parents which is absolutely true .she was more than pampered as she was born after a long period of infertlity. Also my father has his fair share in spoiling her by bending to her each and every demand. I know most of you will be thinking that this post is so sick and gross but at least there will be few who will know that this can be true. I love her like anybody else would love his or her mother but there are so many traits that are not agreeable. Again I chose only to vent out but feedbacks and suggestions if any (as to how to control my emotions further) are very welcome.