My brothers marriage --husband not interested

Hi Monlisa,

Like punitha said all men are same. Me too will pray for you. Dont lose hope.

Love
Lakshmi

 

hi Monlisa, most indian men are only happy in things are invlovong their own family. they will go to great lengths to make sure they are at their own families weddings, when it comes to wife's side of family, they are not that worried about going, and even f they go, they don;t help, just sit there. i hope that u will get to go to your bro's wedding, i know that when my brother got married if i wasn;t there, my mom would have been Very SAD......like the other's said, talk to your hubby when he's in good mood. good luck!
jooti

 

Hi Mona,

When you get a chance, ask your husband the reason for not sending you for your brother's marriage. Just stick to the facts, and very clearly explain to him how important it is for you to attend your brother's wedding. Do not become emotional! Be firm!

Good Luck

 

Maybe the elder brother not able to attend your marriage makes your husband do so. explain to him the situation in which your elder brother was and why he didn't attend your wedding, when your husband is in good mood.
Hope for the best and be positive.

sriniketan

 

Do you work? Can you arrange the travel ticket by yourself? If your husband doesnot buzz , you need to be ready with backup plan. I would never leave my brother's marriage for come what may..
Try all four rule of convincing ....

Equality, Temptation, Differentitaion and Punishment..

English translation for (Sam , Daam, Bhed and Dand)

As someone else also suggested, Discuss objectively.. No emotional appeal. Bcos that way you husband will know which string to pull in you. You need to put this in his head ...that it matters to you and you would not let others dictate your call in ur family matters..

Wish you good luck :wave

 

Dear Monlisa,
While I am sad reading your post, I was sadder still when I read a few responses where they say, "all men are the same".

There are good men and bad men as there are good women and bad women. Now let's forget that and focus on your problem.

Why was your brother not able to attend your marriage? There has to be a very strong and special reason for that.

I would suggest that you gently broach the subject to your husband when he is in a good mood. Tell him that it is very important for you that you attend this wedding. Without raising your voice you can tell him that if you are not allowed to go for this, you will not be in a mood to attend any function on your husband's side.

Simultaneously you may ask your brother to talk to your husband. Since he could not attend your marriage, he can probably explain his side and even say sorry if necessary. I think your brother not attending your marriage has hurt your husband's ego. Your brother meeting him or talking to him, will calm some ruffled feathers.

Take care and all the best.
regards,
sridhar

 

Dear Monlisa,

Most men, if not all, feel they do not have obligations or responsibilities towards wife's family. Find out why your husband is against your attending your brother's wedding. Do you think finances? Give some ideas as to how you could work it out. If it an ego problem, may be he wants to show he can rule. Present your thoughts as to why this event is important to you. Be firm. If you are working, then you surely have more weight.