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Moving To New Apt Community (us) - Do's And Don'ts

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by Vedhavalli, Jul 4, 2018.

  1. Tamrakshar

    Tamrakshar Platinum IL'ite

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    What about feigning that you, too, are pregnant and the doctor has suggested complete rest for you? Later on you can say that the pregnancy report was false.
     
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    Nooo I don’t want to fake such a thing for someone else !
    It’s a very precious thing why to fake that for some neighbour
     
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    Yes, that's a sensitive issue!
     
  4. GeetaKashyap

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    @shravs3,

    Please don't take on that responsibility. Taking care of an young kid can be challenging especially, since you are inexperienced. Blame it on hubby and say he has reservations. You don't have to feel guilty.
     
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    Yes true but I don’t know why she is not able to understand that!
     
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    I think the problem here is your non assertiveness. When she first brought it up you should have looked her square in the eye and said no as I do not feel comortable doing this. You are not saying a firm No and people like her will take advantage. You need to be more aggressive and not worry what she thinks about you. She seems to have no shame. She would have no problem saying No to you I am sure, that is the way I look at things. I refuse to do things for people I am not comfortable with, it has lost me relationships but not worth it.
     
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    That's her problem. If anything goes wrong or out of control, unnecessarily you will be held guilty. Unless the friendship is old and deep, it is advisable to avoid such responsibilities.
     
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    Yes, you are right! I should have told before itself. Better late than never.
    Finally made up my mind and told her I won't be able to take care of her kid as I am busy with other things which are actually true.But I am feeling guilty as well :fearful:

    That's my actual worry too!
     
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    Just tell her firmly as often as needed. It is a big responsibility to take care of a small child, and you are exposing yourself to a lot of liability. What if she doesn't like something and blames you? These types of people will find another bakra easily enough.
     
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    Yes, today I conveyed her that I’m little busy and won’t be able to help
     
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