hi i been married for three years and have 2 year old son. i was raised in US and my husband recently came from india. Me and my H are both working and have 2 year old son. My inlaws are in India, My husband is sending all his salary to his parents. I am running my house with my money. If i ask him why does he do this, he says none of my business. My inlaws have a joint family of four brothers ( all married, drugies, drunkards and have kids) When i was newly married(in India) i was told that MIL keeps all the money, so she had taken all the money that i had given by my parents and she never returned it back. I got pregnant right after my marriage. I was living in a small bedroom/livingroom where any body could walk in anytime. my personal clothing closet was kept in the front yard so everybody could enjoy what i keep in and taking out of it, even my undergarments i asked for different bedroom to my husband , he told to his mom, her reply was that i been married for two days only and already talking about home partison .10 days later they told me i should get up 5.30 in the morning, take bath with cold water and make breakfast for all 15 people. after that i should mop the house and i kept doing it. In the noons my FIL come home and rested in the living/bedroom. None of my H's SIL asked my to share their room for temprary rest so i had no where to rest all day. my husband wanted to have sex everyday, so we had the room available from 11 pm to 5. 30 am. after sex we slept at 1 am and my husband used to keep me naked all night and in the morning my FIL used to come in bedroom without warning. Even the food was kept locked ans i was not allowed to eat without permission. Only three meals in a day were given. No fruits, no milk nothing else. I already mentioned that i was pregnant and i had lost weight instead of putting on. They took me to Doctor only twice in six months. I had already all the signs of complicated pregnancy and delivery. i was fighting with my husband all that time but he said thats how things go in his house and none of his SIL had any problems when they had their kids.if i have some issues then that is not his and his family's problem( these words were came from his mom, my H doesn't use his own mind) They had taken my Passport, money, jewelry and all other important documents, I didn't have any place to keep them either. I was begging them to send me back to US, but they said i cant go without my husband.(Immigration process was taking time)I tried to tell my parents but never had privacy to talk. Luckily one of my relatives visited me and saw my condition ( I was pale, weak, and in rags) They told my parents in US ,then my dad talk to my FIL and said if they don't send me back now then my air ticket will get expired and they will have to buy new ticket. After that he agreed to send me back. My son was born 2 months early and was only three pounds. Since the day my H came to US, he was beating me up every other day. I been tolerating all that just to save my marriage. Finally i called Cops after two years and he stopped raising hands on me. They never gave a single penny to me and my son in those three years, even when i buy toys and cloths for our son, is a big waste for my inlaws. Thay always tell my husband to save money and send to them. now we are living OK but how can i stop him sending his salary to his parents.