we have been married for more than a year. my wife has issues sharing her salary with me. When we got married, i expected her to share her salary.i did want to give her a pocket money for some financial freedom .But i expected her to come up as a team partner and share her money.i found this lacking.She says no woman does it.Initially i tried to be liberal.she earns 36 k p.m plus a variable bonus every 3 months. so for first 6 months she didnt share a single penny.then when i asked she should make some contribution. it went to 10 thousand.then on insisting to 15 and now 30 thousand. .initially i never did any accounting. but later i felt there were big holes in expenditure .i could not account for lot of expenditure. i started accounting and now i can count every rupee.before marriage she spent a lot on her family .i suspect there are still some linkages. She manages all this via a seperate bank account.she hides any bonuses or increments from me. Now i feel i want cut all the financial links.i have asked her to close this bank account. she is fighting tooth and nail for this. but i feel she should be open to to common family ( me and her) income pool and take an allowance of 5k every month but with no seperate account.her reluctance and my insistence is making it bad.