We had our baby girl last month, i was so looking forward to experience everything that was coming my way as i enter motherhood. MIL is here to help with the baby. I have no support from parents in any means since my mother never approved this relationship. With MIL I share a very formal relationship, we keep our conversations to minimum, talk only when required. She is a typical MIL, extremely judgmental, huge cribber, she makes faces, doesnt talk properly, makes issue out of almost everything and the list will go on. I had a long labor, extremely sore after baby was born. She hardly cared when i couldnt get out of my bed. She din care for baby as well. I was very upset but understood baby will always be our responsibility. As a first time mom i was overwhelmed handling this tiny human, that was real. Baby had issues latching on, lactation at the hospital provided nipple sheild to start with since i have short nipples. But MIL made it sound like baby is unable to latch coz of my nipples. She passed comments on how ugly my breast looked and why i did not do anything about it. After returning home, baby stil had trouble latching. BM came in next day, i was engorged, i started pumping. Every feed i was trying to work with baby to latch on, she would cry but would latch on for 5 or 10mins. At 2weeks, this was good. I spent time taking care of baby fully. MIL would only cook. Especially nights were rough. I was sore with no sleep, baby taking all the time, plus pumping to keep the supply. It was overwhelming. She started bottle feeding the baby fully in my absence. Incase i am in shower or sleeping or sometimes even if i am right there she would simply pick up the bottle every time baby cries irrespective of baby being hungry or not. She would take the baby overnight & ask me for pumped milk. I was extremely mad, with time baby started latching lesser. She developed bottle preference, since that was lesser work. MIL started telling i should work on bring out the nipple & shouldnt force the baby. But i kept trying, kept crying, DH spoke to her. She says anyway its only 6months BF & bottle feeding is more convenient. And with bottle feeding she would keep the baby with her most time. I hated to see her feed my child. I felt like she was taking away the most precious experience from me. I almost gave up on BF, forcing baby on the sheild. I also realized i got carried away with my short nipple issue which is most common in FTMs. After DH told her to stop bottle feeding & mentioned baby should spend time with mom in this initial time for bonding & it will help BF as well. She got so upset, no talks at all, making faces, no matter how much baby cries she wouldn't touch her. This has been on & off with her. I am sick of seeing her making faces for everything. Now here is another major issue. Baby is 6weeks old now. From the time shez born till now, MIL keeps her awake for longer periods, playing, making video calls back home. As if baby is a toy. As advised by pediatrician, first 3months baby needs lots of sleep for their development & growth. Also the times shez been up for more than 1.5hrs she has lot of trouble sleeping, neither feeds nor sleeps, becomes fully cranky. I started taking baby away from her, i would feed & put the baby to sleep right away & started keeping baby with me as much i can, trying to establish BF when shez not too hungry, or sleepy. Its a LOT of work with a recovering body. Am i wrong in doing this? We tried telling her multiple times to not have the baby up for so long. But anything you tell, it is never taken is a positive way.