Mil Sneaking Into My Girl

hey ladies..
Mil is here and I am becoming more and more frustrated each day. As I mentioned earlier she does not have good vibes for me, even this time she finds fault in the way I do things for my daughter and dh gave me suggestions which he never did till now .. I asked him from where you are getting this wisdom suddenly since no man have knowledge of such things in front of mil. The things which irritates me the most is she is sneaking into my daughter every time. If my dd wants to do something with me she will ask her dadi will do. If me and dd going outside she will ask her sould dadi come? It’s like for everything. She tries to become most important person in dd’s life. Till now I am just ignoring her or telling dd I will do it for her. I understand many of you will justify it like it’s grandparents love and all that but I can’t digest it since I know her nature. She is always in the competition with her dils. Even when I went to India when dd was not going to her and giving preference to me she kind of challenge me by snatching her from me and saying let’s see who will win your mummy or me. I am feeling like she is trying to snatch her from me again. She will be here for more than one and half month more. I will got mad in that period for sure.

 

a) Whats the worst that could happen if your DD is with her grandma for next 1.5m ?

Thanks for your reply
She is a sweet talker with honey coated tongue . Even I, a grown up adult misunderstood her as a nice person and my well wisher earlier. I personally never seen such a manipulator around me though I have had grown up in saveral places with different cultural background of people. She is unique in her meanness. When I was newly wedded she presented all the people she is not liking as evil though I got to know different scenarios latter. I want to keep an eye on the company dd is bonding with In the same way we control the company our kids are hanging out in school. It would be my worst nightmare for dd to turning into her grandmother when she grown up and breaking other houses.

Somewhere I have this resentment that mil never cared to ask me my well-being when I was pregnant, never did anything when she came here 2 months prior to my delivery and now she want to play with my daughter.. this is the same girl I had in my womb when she does nt missed a chance to made my life vulnerable.

And lastly I am afraid she will poison dd’s mind the way she did with dh not in those 1.5 months but later making her bond stronger.

B)
No, love is not exclusive, we cAn spread it in many peoples life at once. But this does not apply over people who play favourism over their future prospective of gaining monetary things

C) I have so many irritable incidents with her.. confused which one blows my blood more. For now I think the one when I was asking for epidural after 7 hrs labour and she was giving a wicked smile. Before that she was sleeping there and actually snoring the whole time. Other one is when My father past away when I was pregnant and when she went there at my place to meet she gave them list of things she want for the baby shower which would be done after More than 5 months.
Though I don’t love her for anything,, I can appreciate her one thing .. though she complain over tiniest thing to her sons she never fight with me at my face. I have nothing to love about her. Some of you will tell me she brought up your husband and I should be grateful for that. For this she happen to be the mother the man I marry and that does not draw any favor on me, even my parents brought me up and they never play superiority over my husband.

I hope this will help.

 

Thanks for understanding .
Absolutely true.. it’s not just 1.5 months, it’s every time they will be here and going back all demands I used to do this thing there.

If I will ask her that now I am here we will definitely have a fight later in near future. Though I am noticing significant changes in my dh ‘s behavior but the fact is he is her son .

 

You are right that’s worst but now I am feeling if she will fight over tiniest thing the way she complains that would be most terrible. In this way atleast I have to fight with dh once in a while when he would ask me, so something better in this worst situation.