Mil-dil

Here is my understanding about the whole MIL- DIL saga.
For any relationship to work, both the parties need to understand, co-operate, compromise and finally stop the comparison.

Most of the time, dils look for their mothers in their mils and vice versa, and This leads to unwanted hatred, jealousy and most of the negative emotions.

Everyone wants to talk about how flawed the other person is, and this hatred and blame game becomes ugly in any relationship.
Why dont we adjust ourselves and mend our egos here and there, before pointing fingers at others....

For a mil, her son is never an adult and is always her pampered cuddlesome and most innocent soul on planet earth, whereas for the dil her husband is a grown up man....

 

@periamma

Lovely post amma.. I am beginning to understand the longings and disappointment a MIL goes through after i had a child. Although they are proud and happy with their kid’s success and blissful life abroad, I can imagine how heart breaking it is for a parent to know their kid is never coming back home, except for the occasional two week vacation. They cannot see their grand kids as much, pamper them and spoil them with their favorite food and snacks, teach them life lessons and have fun with them..although some parents act that all is well and good with kids settling abroad, I can see that most parents are longing for their kids to be back with them, and I think that is a parent’s nature.
Glad to know you have a lovely family..

 

I feel dowry itself is wrong . Parents can gift to their daughters whatever they want whenever they want our of their capacity and choice. No need to declare how much they can afford or document before finalising the alliance.

 

Oh my God ! I met a lady once on a flight to the US. We sat next to each other and got talking. She seemed very nice and learned. She had the exact same story .She had lost her husband quite a few years back. Son is in the US with his family and daughter in UK. She stays alone in Bangalore and teaches music ( I am not sure) to the kids. She visits her kids and grandkids every year.She is from Bangalore too . Wonder if she is one and the same . Small world .