Here goes my story IL . I was married to a guy who hails from well settled family . I belong to a normal middle class family. My father conducted my marriage in a grand way and gave enough of dowry , jewels , diamond ,silver and a lot of cash . Reg my dh i do say he is a gentleman but a puppet doll for his parents . My dh was wrking in abroad and did hid masters in abroad .so after marriage i was about to stay with him in abraod . My mil and fil are worst to the core . My parents gave everything whatever they demanded . But later on they started demanding some more which was unexpected . Our first night was conducted 10 days after marriage looking for an auspicious day . Till then i was staying in inlaws house with mil in middle of me and dh sleeping in bed .10 th day was our first night which was supposed to be conducted in my house . My mil nd fil said let it be conducted in a hotel , since i do hail from orthodox family my parents said it wont be gud to conduct in hotel . My house was far better and spacious than my inlaws house . My house was pretty luxurious and spacious than their house ( pretty deceit than inlaws house ) . My parents made luxirious flower decoration of 12000 rs for my first night alone. The next day early morning at 4:30 a.m :bonk itself my mil called my dh when we were in our first night room stating ' do come home early am waiting for you , come and eat with me breakfast ' . My dh got up immediately and stared to take bath. By the time my parents got up and started preparing 5 varieties of breaffast items . My dh was so hurry he didnt even talk to my parents or to my brother.My dh told my bro to drop him at his house since its was 1 hr drive from my house. By the time my bro and dh stepped into my inlaws house my mil started making drama by crying loudly stating ' i was waiting for you . why did you come by this time ( it was 8:00 a.m ) i was waiting for you without having my breakfast . you forgot me after marriage ah ? ' my bro was stunned to hear such drammatic actions by her.My dh was supposed to stay in my house after first night since its our practice . All the three days my dh do come to my house by 8:00 p.m in the night to sleep with me , then in the morning he do run back to his house (mil house) . Then 4th day was our maru veedu which me nd dh happened to stay in their house (mil house) . Me and dh happened to sleep by 10:00 p.m but my mil and fil dont have mind to let us sleep , both were talking to us about unneccesary topics . we went to sleep by 11:00 p.m , after half a hour i felt my fil and mil both standing near our bedroom door and listening to what me and dh was talking and doing . My mil waz such a pyscho that she cant bear her son (my dh ) sleeping with me . Immediately by 4:00 a.m in the morning she started banging at our bedroom door stating enough of sleeping . By the time i opened the door she looked as if she wants to kill me . My mil started shouting at me stating ' this is what the respect you give for elders . Its 4 o clk you need to sleep further with my son'.:bonk The same day my mil prepared pongal which was my dh's fav breafast . Me nd dh ate pongal . Since my dh was having staomach upset he happened to eat less than me . Later my mil came and asked me why you didnt eat pongal . I said i had enough only my dh had less. IS THERE ANYTHING WRONG IN THIS ANSWER omg i dono why she got angry he blasted her son stating ' why you ddint eat pongal i made specially for you ' later my dh started shouting at me stating why did you complaint about me to my mom .. Later my mil started telling my hus hit her at mouth she started separating you from me :spin OMG all her psycho activities was killing me immediately after my marriage . My fil is not a very decent gentle man he is one more worst to the core . Always will be behind me to drag complaints about me and scold me whenever he gets chance .. My dh came for a short leave for marriage so he happen to leave immediately 20 days after marrige to abroad to join his work back. After marriage for those 20 days me nd my dh havent been out alone , not even to a movie alone . all the day was he do need to sleep nd listen to his moms lulluby . since i was wrking in IT i got stuck with notice period in company . so i ws in a position to stay with inlaws till my notice period gets over. The 2 months i stayed with them was a hell. My mil started showing her anger like providing less food , switching of the fan stating ' why you need fan ? ' , and using annoying words like ' dharidhira munda ' cos my dh got cold went he went to u.s . Stating that he got cold cos of me . And using bad words and scolding my mom and dad . My heart was broken . Since i ws in notice period i need to complete my project work before i quit , so at times i do start by 7:30 from office . Immediately when i step into my inlaws do ask what i did in office and why it was late . I do reply them politely . But they inturn ask me ' oor suthitu vandhiya ' . OMG after this conversation they dont even provide me dinner . so i started eating from canteen all 3 times . I do call my parents when i was in office cos i dont have rights to use their (mil's ) landline to call my parents. My dh does nt even bother to call me nd talk after reaching abroad . I started calling him but inturn he dont even pick the call . he do call his parents daily but by the time he call them to the landline i will be in office . I thought i chose a wrong guy as my dh . My parents paid air fare for my dh and for me since it was first time . but it didnt stop with tat . My Ils are not happy cos they demanded some more dowry frm my parents which they didnt even ask us before marriage . Even when i tried to tell my dh a bout the situation , he dont bother . One sunday he called his parents to the landline after conversation with his parents my mil handed phone to me asking me to talk to my dh , since it was a parallel connection i was talking to my dh over the phone in bedroom . My MIL in a cheap maaner was listening our conversation over other phone in the hall ( such a cheap rate lady ) , immediately when i happend to come to hall she kept the phone .