May 2015 due date club

@pooraniammu: Thank u. :thankyou2:
Hope u r doing well..

 

Hi all. Apologies for having been pretty logged off for the last few days...been really stressful for me. Probably let me start with my birth story...now that I look back feels like a lifetime ago ))

sone background into my story to kick things off :

my my husband and I have been married a little more than 5 years ago. The perils of a late marriage (we married in the early 30s) of the obvious pressure of kids hit us quickly. After trying for 2 years on our own, we stepped up to brave fertility treatments. For the first year things were more investigative and non invasive, then came the harder push with aggressive treatment and sadly nothing worked that year either. A scare from my fertility specialist to have to undergo a surgery which could put me out of trying zone for 6 months prompted me to switch my fertility specialist. The new person, Dr madhuri was my dream doc - upfront and very scientific in her approach. Both of us bonded very well. In the course of investigations we found the issue to the problem, make fertility issue of fragmentation of sperm. To by pass this issue, we took to the procedure of ICSI which is a more advanced version of IVF. Things clicked in the first cycle with a single blastocyst and we were on top of the world as my due date was my birthday. Unfortunately the happiness didn't last too long and I had a miscarriage in May 2014 which was highly traumatic. At this point I went through a myriad of emotions and almost reached the stage of believing there was no hope of bearing a child. My grandpa whom I was very close to passed away a month later and then was the threshold of pain I could tolerate. I went through a complete transformation in terms of my opinion of life and approach. That is when my husband and I went on a vacation and got back with the mindset of giving things another try. Also in the interim we found out with the blood tests that I needed to have some extras medication to support the pregnancy. In the month of August last year we started the next cycle of ICSI. My doc wasn't too sure if it would work but think my approach this cycle was so positive and focussed that things clicked well.

for this time around, I hit the paranoid button and took a call not to inform anyone till u had cleared the 20th week anomaly scan other than our parents. There began my journey of thi pregnancy and further graduated from responding on ttc forums to the May due date club this group has been amazing and ensured that it more than compensated for the aspect that I needed support when I couldn't talk yo others.

The first trimester was okay except for the nausea and strong dislikes for maida abd sugar. The second trimester was scary as initial I couldn't feel my baby's movements till my anomaly scan in week23. The reassurance that all was ok came in week 26 when I felt the first strong kick from my baby. The rest of the second trimester I must confess was amazing and probably the best time as there were no health related issues, loads of exercise and the best part had started to show around week25 ensuring I got a lot more attention from people the third trimester was the slow one..loads of check ups, follow up scans and false alarms at the end. Tried my best to create a situation for normal delivery but looking at the baby's position and my history of fibroids, my doc recommended the elective c route. With a heavy heart I agreed initially and then after many rounds of discussing the pros and cons with my doc I took a more whole hearted approach to the c section and froZe out all the experiences which my friends who had gone through the sane process shared.

D day was fixed for 30th April at 12noon and got to the hospital at 730. Finished the admission process and settled into the room by 9am. Suddenly around 930 there was a flurry of activity in the room with nurses coming up for prep, double checking on when I had last meal and water..to be sure for the anesthet.thas when I got to know that my procedure timing had moved up from 12 to 1045. With the entire flurry of activity thing I didn't hit me that I was about to go in for the procedure till I was sitting outside the OT and talking to the anesthetist.

The he actual procedure was interesting. After being reassured by my anesthetist for no surprises, I was hooked to the ecg monitor and asked to arch my back to get the right position for the spinal block. I was first given a local anesthetia at that point and then the spinal block followed. Must say this was pretty painless for all the horror stories I had heard on the pain levels etc. within 5 minutes I couldn't feel anything waist down and was ready for the procedure. This was when my hubby joined me in the OT abd held my hand through the orocedure. There was a curtain raised between me and the lower part of my body to ensure u couldn't see the actual delivery procedure. In the next 4 minutes there was a little tugging feeling and Oka, my doc announced the arrival of my hero with a huge scream by him to announce his arrival into this world. Tears ran down my cheeks as the wait was finally over. After a quick clean up and check, my baby was brought in from of me and placed next to my cheek, rubbed against me to build the bond and then my husband was asked to feel him too. This was for about 3-5 min and then the baby was taken for the check ups and clean up. After a quick stitch up of about 20 mins, I was back in the room at 12. After about 20 minutes of congratulations from everyone, my baby was placed next to me and I was made to breastfeed my child. This was probably the most amazing feeling to have as it was simply magical to have gods gift placed next to me ...my precious little one.

Courtesy of the spinal block day 1 was just about feeding every 2 hours and lying flat on my back. Day 2 was s little better after the catheter and IV line were removed. But then cd me the toughest part, getting out of bed and moving. The stitches had this heavy tugging feeling which was odd dull pain. Refused the painkillers as I felt little pain only and channelized my energy in my son. Day 3 was about walking a little more and practicing a touch more walking as my feet were swelling up de to the water retention. Day 4 was scary as my son had borderline jaundice and doc wanted him to go through phototherapy for 10 hours. Thankfully things worked out and the jaundice moved to acceptable levels by day 5 next day. I was ready or discharge by 5pm but took a call to stay for another day, to avoid the traffic but more so ensure I got home during the day towards ensuring my son had little time to adjust before the sleep time.

Day 6 was really tough for my family. We felt from the hospital at 11am and entourage home got the news that my grandma had passed away. The feeling was terribly tough in mey mom and me. My parents then left in the afternoon for chennai and had to manage things with my in laws around. This is the time I felt insecure and lost on how to manage things. the value of my mom was so felt then and totally understand Dhar ppl say about mothers presence.

Update fir now...my child is slowly settling diwn at home and hopefully will enjoy the surroundings

 

@winipooh

It was good to read your story... And congrats..

I thought yours was natural pregnancy after failed IUI/IVF.

Mine is IVF Pregnancy.. I had to undergo Cervical stitch (As safety measure).

Done with Anamoly scan, 22w4days.. Only from couple of days i feel bit
movement. Things are ok as per scan(Thou baby is always sleeping in scan)...
But still i am little bit scared, till i have baby in arms i wont feel Peace...

 

Hey I Completely forgot about the kajal.. I asked my mom right now.
Its very simple. You need to make diya (Diwali kinds) of ghee or castor oil and then in small bowl take little water. And hold it on top of that diya. (oil / ghee lamp) and when you see the base has some black deposit you can remove that with finger and put it for baby. This can be done daily for fresh kajal (dryone) and if you collect little daily then mix with ghee and store in a small case it will be your normal kajal.

And about pump. Don’t even think of Manual pump. It is waste of time and money. It will only help if the nipple is not coming out for the baby to latch easily.
I was a working mom. Joined office after 2 months of delivery. So bought a double electric pump and I used to take it office and pump during breaks. I pumped for one year and it was super useful. Even after going home and in middle of the night I used to pump. I bought a manual one for my business trips as it was not feasible to carry the entire bag pack but then by the time I used to reach my breasts felt so full and I used to feel tired pumping with hand and its too slow..will come only drop by drop. Once you are regularly pumping with electric one…you will not like the manual one…and it will not completely empty your breast as your hands will be tired…So if you planning to join back to work and pump then go for medela double pump. I bought 2[SUP]nd[/SUP] hand and bought new pieces for those parts that touch the milk.
I am not sure if you can buy 2[SUP]nd[/SUP] hand over there. My pump was medela pump in style advance (it was like a school bag pack). It was later used by couple of my friends and relatives. SO its just one time investment but worth it.
I gave milk directly through my breast to my son only one week after delivery. Later he had been sucking too hard and I had lots of cuts due to which he was sucking my blood too..and once I saw him throw up blood and it was scary. My doc adviced to go for a pump and then anyways I had too, so I started earlier.

GG you are nearing now. If head fixed that’s a good sign….lets hope and pray for a healthy baby and delivery. J

Aww my heart went out reading your post. Don’t worry, God knows what is best for us. You just focus on your baby and healthy eating habits. Don’t think about inlaws and all too much. Even if they come to help they will be thinking about baby 1[SUP]st[/SUP] not you…so its always going to be different. We need to take care 1[SUP]st[/SUP] of ourself and be healthy enough to take care of the baby. Let rest of the world not bother you. Let them go and fly kites ha haha….who cares right…

Yeah Magee, This is the 1[SUP]st[/SUP] thing I need to do over this weekend..Had a super busy week as my boss was going on annual leave. She will come back in 2 weeks…I hope I don’t deliver before that….My complete handover is being done to her so she will be tied up once I am gone. That’s why past couple of weeks had been crazy at work. I am not driving any more so my DH is picking me and dropping me. There were times when he had to wait for an hour or so…(so imagine, how it would have been to handle his anger too…and its valid sometimes I forget to text him and he keeps waiting) he wants me to take taxi but its so expensive…anyways I am sure all these troubles are for short time..later once baby is out I won’t have time to think about anything…

 

wow wini you are super girl....i can't imagine how tough the journey can be for some to a baby...i know with my 1st one. I tried for 3 months and every time period came how sad i felt....so your story is like super challenging.

And it doesn't end...even after birth of the baby you need your parents around but that also was not in your favor. I always say though MIL is your husband's mother there is a lot of difference, they definately help you with the baby but not you. Like you can tell your mom, sister or even dad to bring something for you if you are lying down. Can we ask this to our in laws?
How much ever modern the society becomes, these basic things won't change.

 

@winipooh:
Tears rolled down when I read your birth story.
I don't have to say anything. Take care of you and your LO. !!

 

Thanks for all the lovely posts...you all will understand that I am under huge pain as I am writing this...

Sorry cldnt post to each 1 of you...

From yesterday my cramping is increased...and since it was mild cramping and coming in 20-30 mins apart with no leakage or bloody show...so i didnt rush to hospital it all lasted for 6 hrs...

I am gng to meet my doc in the evening...lets see pls pray for me

 

@ruvi: What hapnd to ur check up? Hope everythng is fine..i always pray for u.. Tk cre.

 

Thanks dear for keeping me in your prayers....so I went for checkup in the evening...

Doc performed internal checkup and confirmed that Baby's head is engaged and also lightening has happened....but I am yet so far to deliver as no sign of dilation yet

:spin:bowdown. Also, CTG was performed for almost 60 minutes to check fetal heart - thank god all fine...just that I am being very impatient now...

I am supposed to go for next checkup on 16th May :confused2:

for all those pains my doc suggested me to drink jeera water....

 

Ladies my first post as mommy.

I am joining blue club as well.

Yes, Its a baby boyyyyy and normal delivery.


So ladies, keep walking, that sure helped .