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Marriage Lessons Learnt In Real Life

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by iyerviji, Mar 20, 2019.

  1. nakshatra1

    nakshatra1 Platinum IL'ite

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    Iyervija Ma , I agree with you. There is nothing wrong in expecting equality/equal adjustment form both sides, but the fact is no matter what we should be ready to adjust from our sides and surely it will lead to peaceful and beautiful family in the long run. Not just as DIL, but as wife, as mother, as daughter, any relationship requires hard work and sacrifice.We always have to give our best.
    And like you said - we should not extend our fight in front of others and children- we may argue wildly one day and next day absolutely forgive and love each other - but if third person is witness/involved that incident becomes ugly forever.
    I agree. I feel most women are ready to do everything for their family.They just want fair amount of help with household chores after a hard day at work and the right to take care of parents(as well as inlaws). We have to get out of patriarchal mindset - women too feel same tiredness after office and women too feel same gratitude/love towards their parents as men do .Just accepting these few things itself can bring peace to many households.I feel my marriage is loving and peaceful because my husband is also very sacrificing/empathising. Peace will prevail only when both are loving.
     
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  2. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan Finest Post Winner

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    :hello:You called a spade a spade. Well thought out succinctly outlined the blue print for a purposeful relationship of marriage.
    Thanks and Regards.
     
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  3. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan Finest Post Winner

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    :hello:The paraphrasing of subashidani vis a vis need of the hour is quite enjoyable read from a revered highly matured oyster and as a result this FB MIGHT TURN OUT many more oysters who might inturn impart it to their wards.
    Thanks for the elaborate response to OP’s thoughtful timely post.
     
  4. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan Finest Post Winner

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    :hello:In Tamil cinema we had vijay-Simran-SPB, where the marriage between poor family girl and foreign returned boy on probation basis arranged and as per terms of contract the marriage is annulled or terminated after the period of 11 or 12 months. The issues in such marriages its viability or feasibility well depicted and wonderfully captured and emoted by vijay and Simran.
    2. I for one would not be surprised if at some future date, like hiring home on leave and license basis, weddings too would be arranged on contractual basis.
    Thanks and Regards.
    God bless the evolution of marriage.
     
  5. satchitananda

    satchitananda Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Sir, have I said anything about treating marriage lightly, making and breaking on a whim?

    So where did the question of contract marriages, trial marriages etc. come up?
     
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    nakshatra1 Platinum IL'ite

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    I am not so pessimistic, rather I think - if anything , the sacred bond of marriage is being recognized more.The contractual perspectives that many had in yesteryears have actually reduced Eg.dowry,caste/community-match, having strict rules/terms like woman alone has to slog in kitchen after hard day outside , treating wife as a property so she is not allowed to visit parents.All these are disappearing slowly because men started empathizing with women as equal human beings.Similarly,in other cases, many women started getting jobs to reduce/share their husbands' pressure to be primary breadwinner.

    Equality in marriage It actually represents humanity,empathy, dignity of individual,compassion and evolved thinking of the partners.Marriage never was and never can be like a contract -it is the most sacred bond we have - for which we are willing to sacrifice our life for our spouse if ever required. And equality in marriage makes it more real and beautiful.
     
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  7. iyerviji

    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

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    Thanks dear. Glad my posts are valuable
     
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    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

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    Glad to know you were missing my post. Glad you liked the write up. Ya sacrifice also necessary
     
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    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

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    Glad you liked my post and missed my post. Thanks dear
     
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    Thanks dear for your sweet message. Glad you respect my guidelines and experience
     

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