Iyervija Ma , I agree with you. There is nothing wrong in expecting equality/equal adjustment form both sides, but the fact is no matter what we should be ready to adjust from our sides and surely it will lead to peaceful and beautiful family in the long run. Not just as DIL, but as wife, as mother, as daughter, any relationship requires hard work and sacrifice.We always have to give our best. And like you said - we should not extend our fight in front of others and children- we may argue wildly one day and next day absolutely forgive and love each other - but if third person is witness/involved that incident becomes ugly forever. I agree. I feel most women are ready to do everything for their family.They just want fair amount of help with household chores after a hard day at work and the right to take care of parents(as well as inlaws). We have to get out of patriarchal mindset - women too feel same tiredness after office and women too feel same gratitude/love towards their parents as men do .Just accepting these few things itself can bring peace to many households.I feel my marriage is loving and peaceful because my husband is also very sacrificing/empathising. Peace will prevail only when both are loving.