Discussion in 'Married Life' started by iyerviji, Mar 20, 2017.
Welcome Aaru dear
nice write up !!
sometimes all we need is to hear someone else telling these things out of years of experience
Very nice write up and very apt too.
Nice write up
This sounds like advice about what to look for in a husband-prospect. A pre-marital choice thing. And seems to approve of premarital dating -- how else would a girl know to not go for looks, and know who has a good heart, etc.. And the final sentence blew me away... Spend "treasurable" moments with the special people ? me likey!!
For many women, marriage was/is the only option for a genteel life. There were no opportunities to make a decent living on one's own, and therefore think about different sets of criteria for how much they need to adjust and compromise towards what constitutes their happiness. This problem had existed for Jane Austen's era women, and it does for many Indian women of a Trishanku(त्रिशंकु) social class, even to this day. The too-wealthy don't bother with adjusting and compromises. The too poor have other critical problems of safety, security and starvation. Those in the middle have to find an independent means to a decent living, or else, be ready to adjust and compromise. The clever ones do indeed make the best of the predicament, and have a tolerable time of it.
Thanks Nonya for your views about my post, glad you liked it, sorry for the late reply
very simple and very true are your words. nice writing. keep up the good word