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Long Distance relationships, do they work into good marriage?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Angellheartuk, Oct 24, 2006.

  1. Angellheartuk

    Angellheartuk New IL'ite

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    Hi,

    I just wanted to ask you all to shed some light to whether long distance relations work? Specially when two people are in two different Countries?

    I have always had a debate about this with my friend.
     
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  2. wfsmurthy

    wfsmurthy New IL'ite

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    Hi,
    Me & my husband are both married for 5 yrs now. We both met on the matrimony websites. We never met before he was in US & I was in B'lore. All we did was chatting on the internet exchanged photos. My parents saw their parents & his parents saw me & my parents. I got good reviews from people about him. So I decided to go with him.
    You dont believe it has worked out soo well in our case. We both saw each other only 3 days before marriage.
    After all co operation from parents is very important.
    hope this helps
    Savitha
     
  3. Eljaype

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    Dear Savitha,

    You have been lucky in getting a good person as your friend. There are many cheaters also there.
    I have seen and heard about many people who have suffered through these friendships which end up in bad marriages. I found lots of queries in the Ammas.com , where I answer and rate queries and responses.

    Whoever wants to go that way, please be careful. In everything, good and the bad are there. Exceptions are there.. isn't it?? All the best to you dear
    Latha
     
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    Ashna Bronze IL'ite

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    Its true that we have to be careful because you never now how the other person is in reality. All the glitters is not gold and grass is always green on the other side. People are not always what they pretend. Its only God who knows the best and some where he always shows us the way in form of our sixth sense or the other, its we human who don't listen and regret later. I would just say that you should be very careful in matters of matrimony because your one wrong decision ruins your entire happy family.Its human nature to blame others but we should try see where we have been wrong as you cannot clap with one hand and every coin has two sides.

    But then all people are not bad we see good examples too and then wonder why things went wrong our way, why did our family suffer for some one else's misdeeds and fraud.

    Relationships whether from long distance or very close to each other work only when both partners are true in it. You will reap the fruit of your own seeds only. We human can cheat other human beings but God is omnipresent he can see us and will be the best judge for our actions.
     
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    Dear everyone,

    Just like savitha, my parents found my partner and we both agreed to get married even without seeing each other. Only after our informal engagement(oppu thamboolam) , we started talking to each other ... He was in Us and i was in chennai,irrespective of the time difference between both the countries.. we both spoke for about 14 to 16 hrs a day and we became so close to each other. I would say being open and true to your partner is must, so that both of them can know each other better instead of getting shocks when u start living together after marriage.

    Finally, we met just 2 days before marriage and we had half a day to go around and it really clicked. We are now a happy married couple !!!

    Sensug
     
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    Re: Long Distance relationships, do they work?

    hello!

    my situation is quite different than the situations that u described. I met before my fiance and kept seeing him for much time, but later, due to professional matters we had to separate, cause he went to work in a different country. It's been already a year and a half, but it doesnt matter. We can wait as much time as needed and then we will get married.

    Just think, if you want to spend ur whole life with somebody what can a year or two, or even five change?
     
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    Re: Long Distance relationships, do they work?

    What is your opinion on already married couples that have to stay far away from eachother due to work? Sometimes they have kids, thay have all the tipical problems off merried couples... can they survive?
     
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    Re: Long Distance relationships, do they work?

    I think a relationship can always survive if the love is strong.

    Basically, a marriage should stay always together and people should avoid separating after getting married, cause the real aim of the marriage is to support and protect each other.

    But if there's realy a need, they can separate and if their love is strong, the relation should survive

    olga

    and what do you think?
     
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    Re: Long Distance relationships, do they work?

    Long distance maybe fine with married couples or committed couples with family approval

    But long distance without family approval is very tricky

    Its hard to fight on and stay together when parents are trying to pull u apart and are more close to you physically than ur patner

    P
     
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    Re: Long Distance relationships, do they work?

    Dear Angel,

    long distance relationships depends mainly on how strong (inner strength) & mature & committed an individual is. on the negative side there are circumstances, hormones, immaturity, etc.
    also, it reminds me of the quote, Out of sight, Out of mind - this quote especially for men. so, its 50-50, I suppose.

    Regards,
     
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